I wanted to give an update on my previous post (https://www.reddit.com/r/multilingualparenting/s/z0RJS7EpcQ)

After discussing EVERYTHING with my partner, here is what we’ve decided / our plan (potentially?)

We have decided to drop the Hindi babysitter completely. We’ve also decided that India will NOT be a place that we will be living. We will visit there but we’re have absolutely no plans or desires for baby to learn Hindi.

As for the Korean daycare, we are still unsure. As of right now, this very moment, we want to continue with this plan. We want to put baby in this daycare buttt.. not so much for them to necessarily learn the language. Aside from the Korean language, It’s a good daycare. We’re thinking of enrolling baby but setting zero expectations for her to learn, or even to understand. The daycare goes up to preschool age, so when baby starts talking we would probably pull her out completely.

The number one thing we’ve learned is “DO NOT MOVE EVERY TWO YEARS” we were completely unaware of how horrible that plan could be and how much stress and trauma this could give baby. We had absolutely no idea. With that being said, we are officially letting that idea go (as much as this breaks my heart. Although this is for baby’s sake, not my own)

We will still move to China when baby is three. But even after two years, we will not plan to move. Someone made a good point saying they moved to different countries when the time felt right or when everyone was ready. Me and my partner agree with this approach rather than setting a firm timeline. Another person mentioned they didn’t have a true identify because all their life was spent trying to fit in and learn different cultures.

We were so uneducated and unaware about what we could possibly be doing to our baby and I am SO glad that I made this post because I very well would have done all of those crazy plans.

Now, the issue is the languages. We still want baby speaking all three. Mandarin, English, and Japanese. Me and my partner both agree that she does not have to speak Japanese fluently or really even at all. We just want her to understand it and be exposed to it. Instead of moving to Japan when baby is 5, we’ll just do frequent vacations and still possibly move there in the future. Just not when baby is so young especially after a huge move from America to China

We’re unsure what to do.
I keep speaking to baby in Mandarin and my partner keeps speaking to baby in Japanese. Baby (hopefully?) picks up English while living in America. When we move to China, I only speak to baby in English while she grows up speaking Chinese and her parent speaks to her in Japanese

OR

I put baby in an English daycare in America, and I speak to baby in only English while my partner speaks to her in Japanese. Once we move to China she will obviously learn the language easily if that’s where we live.

People were mentioning that my baby could possibly feel a disconnect if we switch languages in every country so I’m thinking I need to pick a language and stay consistent with it.
The only issue is my partner wants to be able to understand Mandarin and we’ve been practicing for years. Do I speak to baby in English, speak to my partner in Mandarin, and they speak to baby in Japanese?

So my husband is Taiwanese American and I'm Vietnamese. We are living in Taiwan right now. He's fluent in Chinese and English and I Vietnamese and English. We used to communicate in English only but because I'm learning Chinese right now, we have been trying to talk exclusively in Chinese for some time (I'm probably at B1 level for Chinese).

We just had a baby 2 months ago. Since the community language is Chinese and the grandparents (who prefer to speak Chinese) also visit every once in while and call for 15 minutes every day, I wouldn't too worried about his Chinese so my plan is for my husband to speak to the baby in English and I will speak to the baby in Vietnamese exclusively. But my husband refused to do so for sentimental reason (he said it feels distanced to communicate with his son in English) and I don't think I can convince him to do so.

Is there any way for my baby to learn 3 languages at the same time with only me taking care of both Vietnamese and English?

I’m trying to break the cycle and raise my daughter bilingual.

My entire family speaks Spanish fluently, except for the younger generation, my nieces and nephews. My daughter just turned one and has started talking, and to my absolute delight, her first few words have all been in Spanish!
But I’m starting to worry because this is exactly how it started with my sister’s kids. She has three, and with each one, they seemed to learn less and less Spanish as a baby. They were exposed to it when they were little, but eventually English took over.

My sister and I grew up completely differently. Our parents only spoke Spanish to us at home, and we didn’t really learn English until we started kindergarten. We obviously learned English just fine, and we both grew up fluent in Spanish. That’s what I want for my daughter too.
The problem is that EVERYONE, for some god awful reason, speaks to her in English. Even when I remind them, “She only speaks Spanish,” they still do it. I don’t care if someone speaks English to her here and there. I know she’s going to learn English regardless. What worries me is how quickly English seems to take over.

We currently live with my parents while we save for a house, and my parents are very hands on with all of their grandkids. They pick up my nieces and nephews from school every day, so my daughter is around her cousins anywhere from five to seven days a week. Whenever the older kids are around, everyone naturally switches to English because they don’t speak Spanish, and then they end up speaking English to my daughter too.

I think that’s what makes me nervous. I’ve already watched this exact thing happen with my sister’s kids, and I really don’t want to repeat the same cycle with my daughter. I know English will come. We live in the United States, she’s surrounded by it, and eventually she’ll go to school and learn it there. I’m not worried about her learning English.
I’m worried about making sure she doesn’t lose Spanish.

I was lucky enough to be raised bilingual, with my German parent speaking German and my British parent speaking English. These rules were never broken, and to this day I still find it crazy to speak the “wrong” language with each parent - it weirds my brain out.

While I’ve spent some short stints living/studying/working in Germany, the UK and speaking English feel the most natural to me. I now have a baby who is 4.5 months old and I would love for her to grow up speaking German like I did, but I’ve no idea how.

My partner is British but having him speak English and me German feels really unnatural. I’m worried that if I did this, my whole relationship with my baby would feel somehow performative/disingenuous.

What are my alternatives?

I’ve heard about speaking the bilingual language in certain scenarios (e.g. bath time, bed time, in the car, etc.) but I don’t know much about this. Will it work as well? Will it be confusing?

Any help much appreciated!

I have a hard time getting my 2 year old to understand. I’m not sure if this is common amongst Spanish speakers but she is always speaking in the wrong tense because this is what she hears. For example I’ll ask her “quieres comer?” asking her if she wants to eat. But then she’ll later tell me “quieres comer” when she really means “quiero comer”. Every single day I have to tell her “es ’quiero’“ and she’ll fix it in that moment but then will make the same mistake later that day. I’m not sure how to remedy this! Any help is appreciated. TIA!