Not gonna sugarcoat it, first two weeks have been rough on the social front. Haven't really made any actual friends yet. Everyone I meet either doesn't share my interests or is still glued to their high school friend group.
I do have one close friend from home, but he's rushing this fall and I already know once pledgeship kicks in I'm not gonna see much of him either. So that's basically off the table too.
I've been going back and forth on rushing myself. Part of me wants to since it seems like the fastest way to actually meet people, but I also feel like I'm starting way behind. Some of these guys have been networking with houses all summer through legacy connections and family friends, and I'm just now showing up to my first events next week to support my buddy. Feels like I'm playing catch up before I've even decided if I want to play.
The other annoying part is the timing. Rush events are conflicting with intramural signups and the first meetings for some clubs I wanted to check out, which honestly felt like my best shot at meeting people who actually share my interests. So now I'm stuck picking one lane without even knowing if it's the right one.
For context I'm a pretty normal guy. I like sports, traveling, going out on weekends, and I actually care about my grades. It feels like almost everyone with that exact combo is already in a frat or planning to join one, which makes the "find your people outside Greek life" plan a lot harder than I expected.
This weekend I'll probably be going to the football game by myself. My roommates and neighbors are cool but we don't really click on interests. The two people I've gone out with so far these past couple of weekends are both out of town this weekend too and I don't really know about clubbing alone.
Not looking for pity, just wondering if anyone else felt this stuck freshman year, especially with rush timing screwing up other ways to meet people. I feel like I'm left choosing between rushing or doing clubs and intramurals. Did it get better? Is it even worth rushing if you're behind on the connections side already? Anyone find their group a different way?