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u/Pablo_petty_plastic 18h ago
Narcissistic parents make unwell children
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u/a-little-timmy 17h ago
fr people blame anyone but themselves
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u/flopisit32 14h ago
Jennifer finally realized she is a prize and the man who deserves her does not exist... /s
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u/freespirit_tck 17h ago
I’m not sure narcissism or not but she certainly either picks the wrong men or more likely doesn’t know how to compromise and move on from being hyper independent to interdependent
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u/Morningfluid 12h ago
Based on her behavior, I lean in on her being the problem. Ben broke up with her for telling/showing extensive parts of their marriage all for the sake of showbiz without telling him. At her age she should know better. Not to mention she goes through partners like track runners go through shoes.
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u/free_terrible-advice 8h ago
Hey, when I was a track runner my main shoes lasted for at least 1 year and my competition shoes were good for two years!
I'd never have such an unfaithful relationship with my shoes.
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u/ritarepulsaqueen 10h ago
ben cheated on his previous wife with his children's nanny. He's a known drunk. I think he's also a problem.
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u/Breezyrain 16h ago
She's pretty much a mess in every other aspect of her life but surprisingly seems like a good mother tbh
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u/Sufficient-Neat-1604 11h ago
Narcissistic moms can be good moms up until a certain age. Once the child gets old enough to try to have agency over themselves that’s when the abuse starts
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u/Breezyrain 10h ago
From what I've seen, she's been good to her kids and her exes kids. Ben's daughter is 20 and her twins are like 18 and going off to college. I think she's probably fine.
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u/_Bene_Gesserit_Witch 9h ago
Without talking to her children you just don't know that. Narcissists are pros at putting forward a polished unitied family front. They also use them to better their image. Happy family photo opps built on love bombing and the like.
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u/nahheyyeahokay 8h ago
Often they seem like great mothers to other people, because to them the perception of them as a great parent is more important than the needs of their child.
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u/AzucarParaTi 6h ago
Yeah, how would anyone know if she's a good mother besides her own children? Everyone always told me I was so lucky to have my parents. They acted perfect and caring in front of other people. Not even our own family knew the truth.
No one knows what life is like behind closed doors.
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u/ContextLengthMatters 12h ago
Reddit: Where everyone is either autistic, raised bar narcissists, or both.
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u/Houseoflevi12 18h ago
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u/Crazy__Donkey 18h ago
Does ben count as one or two?
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u/Hilarity2War 18h ago
In a technical way (so not political) does President Trump count as one or two?
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u/Ghibli_Guy 18h ago
Technically, two. He'll go down in history as the 45th and 47th president.
In his mind, it's a harder call: is he just the 45th? Or the 45th, 46th, & 47th? The world may never know...
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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 11h ago edited 9h ago
Yep. Two consecutive terms is the same president. Obama is just 44. Trump is 45 and 47
(I know I'm basically just repeating what you said but in case anyone needed an extra hand hold through it)
Edit: Grover Cleveland was 22 and 24. So while only 45 men have been president we are on the 47th presidency. Vice presidents taking over counts as a new one too. JFK was 35 and LBJ was 36
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u/ChampionshipHot5468 18h ago
He doesn't count past 7. He doesn't count as a human. They do share pathological narcissism.
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u/SeverianTheSeeker 18h ago
My guess is she's always "chosen herself" -- thus the divorces. The language used to rationalize toxic feminity is so ridiculous.
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u/oleander_sigh 18h ago
The mental gymnastics people use to excuse toxic behavior are honestly wild.
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u/Fzrit 6h ago
What really baffles me is why guys kept going for her despite knowing her history of divorces/engagements. Are they stupid?
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u/TrifleSoft5696 18h ago
Still Jenny from the block, yeh right
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u/Dr-McLuvin 18h ago edited 11h ago
Ever see that video where she went back to her childhood home and meets the people who live there now?
She’s like “hi I used to live here” and the dude just stares at her blankly like “ok?” I’m pretty sure he had no idea who she was and didn’t give a shit it was pretty funny.
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u/ZookeepergameNew3800 18h ago
I got the impression the guy was like „ we lived her since 50 years, never saw you „, it was obviously bs on her part to seem relatable.
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u/mostlyharmless555 18h ago
Jenny been through this block and that block it’s Jenny from the whole neighborhood!!
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u/i_am_a_real_boy__ 10h ago
Maybe Jenny from the block was always like this.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt 10h ago
Ikr, people act like there aren’t delusional self-obsessed people in every project, trailer park, encampment…
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u/Biscuits4u2 17h ago edited 12h ago
Most rich and famous people are extreme narcissists. It takes a special person not to go over to the dark side after having their ass kissed by literally everyone their entire life.
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u/ivanna_suggit 12h ago
This is also why the terms “toxic femininity” and “femcels” are on the rise.
Social media and dating apps are creating a new breed of women (and sometimes men) who get bombarded with attention, compliments, and validation 24/7 online. It’s why so many are trashing men for not being good enough anymore while they’re living in a fantasy land propped up by simps, algorithms, and bots
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u/StockMotor7788 11h ago
I won’t say this is the only problem with current dating scene, but it’s a definitely on the list of 1-2 dozen things imo.
Not a gender problem necessarily, just our current world has made it increasingly difficult for people to really connect on certain levels for some reason.
Maybe it’s just me, but relationships just felt so different before. I often wonder if it’s because Covid era helped social media become so embedded in everyone’s lives — which sorta enforced the negative traits of media dependency encroach on personal and sociocultural aspects of our lives. Shit just doesn’t feel the same anymore.
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u/Conscious-Phone3209 16h ago
I always felt she was in love with being in love. Her main character/diva personality is so strong, she couldn't possibly really share herself with a partner.
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u/bmoreboy410 18h ago
Right. All of those relationships didn’t end because she was prioritizing someone besides herself. So nothing has really changed.
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u/micromechanist 18h ago
Jenny has indeed been around the block more than a few times..
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u/Relative-Relief-8816 17h ago
But she is from the same hemisphere as the block. And she won't forget that.
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u/flopisit32 14h ago
Is there anything to be said for dating Ben Affleck a third time? 😜
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u/Atmosphere_Master 12h ago
I hate how straight up narcissism become conflated with self confidence and self care
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u/Mission_Access_210 18h ago
How come you can get away with posting this kind of thing and you get like 165 updotes but any time I say anything slightly along this line I get attacked by angry feminists and downvoted to smithereens? It's so unfair
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u/BraassBell 18h ago
stated:
"She chose herself from now on."
Contemplating:
"She chose herself, for now."
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u/xftwitch 12h ago
She's known she was the problem, she just kept hoping to find someone that would put up with her shit the same way she saw her dad put up with her mother's shit.
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u/mmmmyeah1111 18h ago
Imagine being that rich and still making social media posts about exclusion
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u/No-Poem-3773 18h ago
Collecting engagement rings like Thanos and the infinity stones
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u/Barton2800 17h ago
Is that 6 failed engagements plus 4 engagements that became marriages and then divorces, or is it 2 failed engagements plus 4 that she went through with and eventually divorced?
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u/Content_Collar_3777 18h ago
At some point the wedding planner should just start offering a loyalty program
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u/Marmstr17 18h ago
4 divorces she always been choosing herself lol tf kinda toxic behavior are we making OK
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u/Any-Night-7998 18h ago
That's the reality we are in now. Every bad behavior or incorrigibility has a fancy name or phrase for it
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u/FinklMan 12h ago
Yeah gaslighting and using fancy therapy talk to justify shitty behavior is the new hotness.
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u/Niblonian31 18h ago
I'm surprised nobody has posted the picture of Ben Affleck smoking that cigarette lol
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u/RattusNikkus 16h ago
Breaking News: Jennifer Lopez has filed for divorce from herself.
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u/XxTreeFiddyxX 18h ago
Honestly, I understand why they are so warped. They are super wealthy, everyone is nice to them *except their haters, they are so removed from the normal world they are clueless, and nothing is sacred when your relationships are just items for your CV
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u/Sun-Much 18h ago
I guess she doesn't understand that her record says more about herself than the ppl she has been involved with. imagine what a piece of work she must be to deal with for that many dudes to bail on her.
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u/sofia-long25 15h ago
At this point, getting engaged to J.Lo should come with a 90-day probationary period and a standard severance package.
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u/micromechanist 18h ago
Maybe the problem is that she has been choosing herself all along those marriages and engagements and thats not really how marriage works..
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u/GarnetOblivion1 18h ago
Always been a hypocrite, claims she’ll always be Jenny from the block but is one of the biggest divas in Hollywood.
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u/RahovartIV 17h ago
4 divorces and 6 engagements tells me you've been choosing yourself for a long time.
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u/wimpymist 18h ago
Every person I've known that has said this ends up dating the "love of their life" within a year usually a couple months
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u/DarkGrimNature 18h ago edited 18h ago
Now if she can divorce herself from singing, I would be on board with this.
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u/KamikazeMimosa 18h ago
Diddy… Marc Jacobs… Ben affeck. Who else is on her belt?
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u/Specific_Jury_2 18h ago
The photos of Ben Affleck holding the door open for her kind of say it all.
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u/NtGermanBtKnow1WhoIs 17h ago
No friend, narcs like her never consider themselves as the "problem." They're always the victim. Someone else is always the problem.
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u/epicredditdude1 18h ago
I guarantee people like her never realize they’re the problem. She’s coming away from this with her newfound realization the world is unfair to her and everyone else is selfish and refuses to let her be happy.
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u/Sufficient-Bid1279 18h ago
Ah yes, the never ending celebrity self reflections……she is so insufferable
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u/Yet_Another_Nerd_ 17h ago
The real question is will she try to divorce herself once she realises how hard she is to live with.
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u/VioletShogun 17h ago
It's gonna be interesting to see how she manages to divorce herself in two years, cuz we know it's coming.
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u/Suspicious_Topic1893 18h ago
Its still a progression imo. Got one mother whose kid is in my sons class. She is born 89, got 9 kids, lost costody of 6 and got one in her belly from the fifth guy. 😅
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u/zelda29a 17h ago
Anytime someone makes a new post about bad celebrity encounters she is always the majority of the answers.
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u/obsess_hero 17h ago
Having more money than she ever could spend. She is/was pretty and known with successful career... she couldve chosen any man on the earth, not matter what is the guy ethnicity, age, how wealthy he is, what his profession is... yet, this is what she could reach.... 4 divorces.
You can be pretty, wealthy, you can have successful career yet shit relationships if you are superficial and shallow af....
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u/fredout1968 16h ago
Hahaha! She is "choosing herself".. Sounds like she has been doing that all along. .
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u/protoanarchist 16h ago
This whole self-love thing has turned into a toxic trait.
"I screwed up, therefore nobody is good enough for me", fades to "finally found someone who loves me", fades to "they're not good enough", repeat.
Toxic toxic toxic. And I don't even give a shit about her. It's the whole single life self love cope in general that's poisoning womens' brains these days.
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u/Similar-Opinion8750 15h ago
She collected engagement rings like Thanos collected infinity stones. Nothing she says about relationships including self help has any relevance
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u/EldraziAnnihalator 11h ago
She has always seemed insufferable, entitled and narcissistic, I can't imagine having her as a partner.
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u/basura_trash 9h ago
Didn't a copy of her prenup get leaked? Her demands were pretty ridiculous IIRC. Then again the whole thing could have been nothing but tabloid bullshit.
... or not.
Meh...why do I even care? Why am I even here posting. wtf?
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u/just-peepin-at-u 9h ago
Choosing herself has probably been her priority the entire time, but now she is just honest about it.
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u/Thin_Motor663 9h ago
“Choosing herself from now on”. You’ve always chosen yourself. Real relationships require you to make sacrifices Jenny.
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u/DrowningInFeces 8h ago
"she's choosing herself"
That's probably what caused the divorces and failed engagements in the first place, dontcha think?
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u/UnexpectedBlahFeels 18h ago
With 10 engagements in all it seems like she just needs to do some fine tuning. Seems like after a certain point she's the one who gets tired of the relationship and switches up to cause a breakup and/or breaks it off straight out.
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u/Grimy-Jack 18h ago
She clearly didn't realize shit. The men in her life are clearly the problem, so she won't bother with them anymore. :P
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u/Efficient_Raise_5767 18h ago
Can we not highlight the fact that JLO is a big dodge ball fan with her twitter handle 🤯
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u/Ok-Background-3295 18h ago
When you're the common denominator in 10 different wedding plans, "choosing yourself" isn't a fresh startit's a retirement announcement
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u/Worldly-Dot908 18h ago
Taking 10 tries to figure out you're the problem is the relationship equivalent of trying to plug in a USB drive upside down nine times.
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u/Mirage524 17h ago
She is probably delightful to deal with early in the morning before coffee is ready.
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u/Big_13eezy 17h ago
She would do herself a huge favor in facing her part in the downfall of her marriages and engagements.
Im just saying, I never bettered myself blaming others, only in taking responsibility in my choices and actions that either assisted or full on caused the end of my past relationships did i better myself.
Sorry, but looks can only get you around the block, a good personality seems to never really run out of gas.
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u/GhostRiders 17h ago
So in other words she is going to be a fuck buddy?
I mean knowing you can bang her without the fear of any kind of relationship commitment is certainly going to make more popular
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u/WiscoMitch 16h ago
If all the men she was married or engaged to with all their achievements, money, fame, and looks aren’t good enough for her, no man that has ever nor will ever exist will be good enough for her delusional ass.
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u/Grouchy_Management88 14h ago
I think she has always chosen herself first. She is a narcissistic person.
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u/shadowdancer354 13h ago
My ex has been with hundreds of guys and some of them even committed suicide after being with her. It’s always great when girls like that take themselves off the market.
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u/K3TtLek0Rn 11h ago
The chance that 4 marriages and 6 engagement all failed for you and you're not the issue is so slim
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u/SimplySeano 10h ago
Ouch. I feel this though. I just wish I was lucky enough to have someone to marry me.
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u/Honest_Chef323 9h ago
I am pretty sure she was choosing herself all the time maybe that was part of the problem
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u/Ok-Matter2337 8h ago
She ,Halle, Britney, Kim, and the rest who have had multiple failed marriages and relationships has no business getting married. Just like Halle,she will be married soon.
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u/Fickle_Library8115 8h ago
She got the money, kids and the looks , she can keep picking guys for the rest of her life or as long her looks get her
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u/MattDubh 8h ago
Looks like she's got a terrible crick in her neck. Or is her head to heavy to hold up straight?
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