My daughter is getting divorced. For the last few years, this young man has been an additional son. He and I got along really well. We have a lot of the same interests and often ended up chatting at family functions.

The divorce isn't high-conflict but he will no longer be invited to family gatherings because it would be awkward for him to show up when she's dating someone else. I totally understand that.

Still, this has been really hard. It's breaking my heart that this person who I viewed as a family member and even one of my kids for years is very suddenly disappearing from my life.

With my daughter's permission, he's asked to take me to lunch this weekend to say goodbye. I'm not sure how to do this. How do you emotionally process through this? What do you say to them?

Before anyone suggests it, I don't plan on maintaining a friendship with him afterward. It would be too awkward and might hurt my relationship with my daughter. I might send him Christmas cards or something but I most likely won't be seeing him again.

Edited to add: I'm the mom, not the dad.

So, I’ll be turning 16 in 10 days and I was just offered a job by my girlfriend dad. Her dad owns a couple restaurants and is offering me a job as a water boy, yk fetching peoples drinks and what not. I’ll be working for 4 hours, so 4pm-8pm from Friday to Sunday. AND HES OFFERING 600 A WEEK. Would I be dumb to pass up on this?

I have a daughter who just turned 18 last week. She went to the tattoo artist in our small town for a tattoo that I made her wait until she was 18 to get. She has been looking forward to this for a couple of years. I have got several tattoos from this guy as well as my husband over the past 5 years and thought he was a pretty good guy that does great work. So I had no problem with my daughter going to him for hers. Didn’t think anything of it.
Her appointment was at 2:30pm but the day of he texts her and tells her he has to push it back to 5:30pm because he has to pick his kids up from school. Makes sense, he has 3 kids. But now I’m wondering if it wasn’t on purpose so they would be there late.

Anyway, Later that night when I get off work at 8pm I stop by the shop because I see she is still there. Thought I’d check out the progress even though I was in a hurry because I had to drive 2-1/2 hours that night to be in another city to babysit my grandson the next morning (For a different daughter of mine).

Anyway, after I was there about 5-10 mins the tattoo guy went out back to let his dog use the restroom because he started whining. Soon as he left the room my daughter begged me not to leave. She didn’t say anything specific right then, just that she wasn’t comfortable there by herself with him. So I texted my other daughter that I would be late and I stayed there with her. When she went to pay his card reader was acting up so we agreed to just pay him later. Like I said he knows our family. We have paid him thousands over the years so it’s not a big deal.

After we leave she breaks down in tears tell me how he was all over her and touching her inappropriately before I got there. She said she kept telling him no and pushing him off of her. She also told me he was drunk. I never would’ve expected this from him. He is the shop owner and has always been very professional. I do know that he is going through a divorce but that is no excuse to violate my child. She has made me promise not to tell anyone and I said I wouldn’t but she is still crying the next day. I know for damn sure I’m not paying him. And I’m not the type of person who is out looking for a free or cheep tattoo. I have all professional tattoos and I tip well. It is art and it’s there forever. You get what you pay for.

Anyway I want to stick up for her and say something to him at least but she told me in confidence so I don’t know what to do! Do I break her trust or just let the piece of shit get away with violating a girl over half his age. Any advise is appreciated. Thanks. I’ll answer any questions I can.

My son turns 4 on Monday, we originally planned a party for him. However, due to moving house and everything that’s happened this month we decided to change it a trip away for him.

My in laws came this morning to pick my son and daughter up to take them to soft play, I should mention that they take them out once a week for quality time, so this isn’t out of the ordinary. I was told they were meeting with a few friends there and their children too.

I was just send a photo of my child sat at a birthday party table with banners and decorations, cake and everything. It turns out they have planned a whole party for my child and I was in the dark and not invited to it.

I’m hurt more than anything that my own child’s had a party and I’ve been excluded from it

I don’t have dwarfism and I’m trying to see if this joke is appropriate to say for my first ever stand up comedy routine. My friend said no, but my opinion is it’s fine if I’m not punching down? Neither of us have dwarfism, so wanted to get an opinion:

You ask anybody around you how many planets we have in our solar system.
What do they say? Oh, we have 8 planets in our solar system, but 9, if you count Pluto.
Why is it an if? Why does Pluto not count just because it's a dwarf planet. It's still a planet. I don't get how being a dwarf planet makes it any less of a planet.
I think it's a little bit ableist.
If someone asked me how many friends I have, and one of them was diagnosed with dwarfism, I wouldn't say:
I have 8 friends. Oh but 9, if you count Alex.

My dad recently cheated on my mom with a 22 year old and I snitched obviously and now he wants me to meet her ( I am literally 20 btw ) and all I want to say to her is why are you with a 50 year old man and that my mom owns most the assets if it’s for the money and that she’s probably ruining her own life. I told my friend and she said that’s bitchy but I literally don’t have anything nice to say to this girl. I think she’s being stupid.

Before anyone else says the anger should be directed at my dad. It is. I expressed my anger towards him , not really angry towards the girl , I just think she’s kinda slow. She has to be dumb or something I’m ngl. I don’t want to be bitchy to her but I have nothing nice to say.

Also my mom isn’t divorcing him because we are Middle Eastern and she also kinda dgaf I think. I have a theory that my mom is lesbian actually. She never gaf. Anyway I spoke to my girlfriend about this and she said I should try to be cordial when I meet her but I literally don’t even think she’s going to be on the roster until next week ngl.

How does one deal with this. I don’t know how to be cordial with a 22 year old girl who’s choosing to throw her entire life away to sleep with a middle aged 5’5 man.

I (38M) my mother (60F) has been seeing this guy (68M) for about 7 years. I’ve always got a bit of a weird vibe on him…nothing concrete in the beginning- just a gut feeling.

I have a daughter 7 years old and whilst we do not see this person much just a handful of times each year, I think it’s inappropriate when a few times he seems to always want kisses goodbye from my daughter.

then last night my daughter tells me randomly (name changed) “did you know Steve told me he has a secret and it’s that he loves me”.

I feel very creeped out by this statement…especially out of nowhere and we haven’t seen him in many months.

is it unreasonable to stop wanting to have my daughter around this person, or relay what was said to my mother and basically accept I’d be insulting or saying her partner I perceive as inappropriate or worse?

how should I handle this?

I [27F] work for my [33M] boyfriend's father, and was having some concerns about a few things. Afraid he would get home and tell them (parents), I begged him to just listen and support as a boyfriend. Now I learned he told his parents and I am dealing with it at work. Feels like a stab in the back, a complete break on the trust. I feel very angry. Friends say he was just trying to help and solve. Others say he should have respected my wish. We have been together for 4 years.

So me (24) and my girl (27) have been together over a year now, today on her lunch she fted as she usually does. She started welling up with tears and told me she needed to tell me something. She said that a guy at her job had spread a rumor that they slept together. She told me he confronted her about it last Tuesday when she was working her double (overnight) shift. Apparently, some girl that dislikes her was trying to make sexual advances in him and because he didn’t want to sleep with her he told the girl that he slept with my gf. It seems really odd to me that he would use my gf as an excuse to reject him. My gf said that she reported him to HR today. Mind you it’s been a whole week since they had that conversation and she waited until just now to tell me.

Ever since her double shift where this event took place, she’s been very distant and irritable. The following morning (last wednesday) she came over and slept until 3 pm as we had plans to hang out that day, I noticed right away when she woke up that something was off. I gave her my house key to get in that morning and took it back as I saw she’d put it on her key chain. I don’t have a house key to her place nor have i been there much at all, so I didn’t think much of it, she got EXTREMELY upset and left that same night and went to her friends house. I didn’t hear from her until the next day, we didn’t even bring up the argument because honestly I felt like it was pretty dumb to begin with. Friday we hung out with her family at her dads, i made a side comment to her step mom about how i’d only been over to her house twice, once again she got up visibly upset and said “we’re leaving”.

On monday we went to grab starbucks before her shift and sat down at the table, I drove 30 mins to meet her by her job because her shift would start in an hour, as we sat down a girl threw some trash away and I barely looked over and she got up and once again left. We didn’t speak that whole day and finally tuesday I told her to come over so we can talk. I brought up my frustration with how weird she’d been acting this past week and once again she tried to leave. I called her out before she walked out the door and told her she couldn’t run forever and some point we need to communicate like adults. We made lunch and haven’t had an argument since, if anything we’ve been communicating really well.

Than today happened, and I can’t rap my mind around why some dude would tell another girl he slept with my gf as an excuse to not sleep with her. Then why wouldn’t she have told me the following day when she woke up? Plus her erratic behavior this past week. She reported him to HR, but part of me feels like she did sleep with him, and she’s only reporting him because he told her that the rumor spread and she obviously doesn’t want her co workers thinking she slept with someone at work. It doesn’t help that she met her last bf at her previous workplace. I had a pretty bad gut feeling when she told me. Am i just in my head, or is there something shady going on here? Thoughts?

Update: She had a meeting with HR at 3 and they have officially started an investigation. He called her at 1:30 before he was supposed to start his shift but her boss told him not to come in today. She has his number but doesn’t want to give it to me out of fear that my speaking to him will interfere with the investigation.

After hearing everyone’s thoughts it confirmed my initial suspicions. I’m still confused why it took her this long to report the incident? I’m also confused about the way she was acting leading up to today. She said she’s been super anxious and has been texting me saying she’s afraid he’ll do something. I genuinely am confused and do not know what to think atp. I’m supposed to see her tonight but idk if I want to anymore. Something tells me she’s cheating..

Update: After speaking to her she said she was molested. She works as a caretaker at a facility and she told me that same night after they had a chat he said “since that’s the rumor going around let’s do it for real”. She said she rejected him but continued to work with him afterwards. They work in pairs and went into a room to check one of the residents and he grabbed her and began masturbating. She went to HR they’re firing him. I asked her why she didn’t call me after he made the advance she said “i was at work, i didn’t think he’d try anything”. I asked why she waited this long, she said she doesn’t know why. She said she told Hr he’s fired and she just wants to be done with it. Opinions?

So me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 6years on and off. We finally got back together after we both started our careers. We do literally everything together and we also happen to live together . We have 2 shared animals and started looking at engagement rings this past month. When it comes to the bedroom and my boyfriend’s sexuality it has always been pretty open. My boyfriend told me he was only into women but later admitted to feeling as though he may have been bi. He told me he was bisexual due to finding men attractive. I didn’t see much issue because I myself identify as a bisexual woman and have dated women in the past.

Anyways during bedroom time he started to want to do anal a lot. I usually had no problem with anal only that id only like doing it every once in a while. He started to want to do anal every time we had sex . I didn’t really question it so I went along with it most of the time. Then I started noticing weird things like him not wanting to go out and go shopping with me. Him staying behind in the car during outings and him being glued to his phone. Again I brushed it off because I tend to do that from time to time as well. Anyways he started doing that for the past month. Not only that but he ended up changing his password to his phone which really threw me off.

We always could freely use each others phones and knew each others passwords, and all of sudden it was different . When I finally did confront him about it he told me that he wanted privacy . To me it was a slap in the face because it’s not like I ever used his phone for malicious purposes. I would use it if I didn’t have mine on me or if mine was low battery. To make a long story short I ended up going to work I work full time at my job and usually 8-12 hour shifts . I get up early in the morning daily I’m always on the go . My boyfriend usually goes to work later but this specific day he was off.

All I remember is that I wasn’t able to get ahold of him on my breaks. So when I got home later that night I was worried. Random car was in the driveway and I thought it may have been one of his friends. I walked in to him and some guy on all fours with a wig on and makeup. He immediately jumped up and said that it wasn’t what it looked like. I left he hasn’t tried to call at all. I’ve been at my best friend’s house and I haven’t tried to get my belongings. I’m not sure what to do honestly . He hasn’t even reached out called texted or anything. I don’t really know how to take that and not sure how to even talk to him. I’m not sure what I saw but it just didn’t look right and I don’t wanna think about what they may have been doing. Neither of them were really naked but they had on underwear and my boyfriend was behind the guy. The guy was on all fours arched up , not only that but he was literally in full glam. Makeup and what looked to be a wig. This happened about 2 days ago now and I’m still in shock

I (18f) went out with my friends the other night. I’m a pretty heavy drinker and i always take things too far. I started off with several drinks and shots at the pub, to several drinks and shots at the club. I felt really drunk and my friends kept asking if i was okay. I don’t really remember much but we went to someone’s flat afterwards and i vaguely remnants talking to some guy. Next thing i remember was sucking him off in the toilet. Then i remember going somewhere with him but i fell down the stairs.
I can’t remember much else but being in his bed and asking him to stop.

I don’t want to say i’ve been raped because i feel like this is all my fault but I’m in so much pain and i feel like I’m going insane. I don’t think there was a condom involved either so I’m getting some plan b and will get an std test. If it was rape there is nothing i can do, i don’t know this guys name, cant remember where he lives or what he looks like - and he’s only in my town for a job.

Edit: I know I have substance issues so it is my fault, i don’t know if this sounds like im contradicting myself but the person im mad at and upset with here is me. I shouldn’t get myself in these kind of positions. I’ve struggled w my mental health for years and do think something is wrong w me. It’s not an excuse though.

I’m not proud of any of my actions and i’m not trying to say that I was definitely raped nor am i looking for any sympathy. All i know is that I wasn’t sober enough to be having sex and that I am reaping the consequences. I have nobody to talk to about this, thats why I came to reddit. I have plenty of amazing friends and family but I don’t feel like i can bring this up to them. I honestly just came on here to get this off my chest as i feel unwell about it and cant keep it to myself.

Furthermore, i cant remember anything about this guy apart from that he wasn’t from my country. Him and his uncle (weird i know) were at the flat afters. I had disappeared with the guy but my friend tried to phone me and message me. I texted back and it had turned out that the guy i was with’s uncle was still at the flat party and that he had allegedly spiked a girl. The police and ambulance services were called and had arrived on scene. His uncle had come back to the guys flat while i was still there but i had no interaction with him as far as im aware.

I pretty much hate my neighbor at this point but hey, we all have needs. His issue is being way too loud.

My neighbor jerks off every morning between 6:30 and 7:30 AM. I have no idea why it is so loud that it wakes me up. I can't sleep.

As a bonus, sometimes I hear him doing it right before I am trying to go to bed (around 9:30 PM). He loves to ruin my sleep schedule.

I got out of bed this morning because I couldn't sleep, and I could still hear the guy. Wow. I usually force myself to lie in bed and sleep longer but it makes me feel so violated. I'm not sure what to do. I feel disgusted.

I have tried going to sleep listening to something (with headphones on), but by the morning, my headphones always die. It's a shame, because I specifically bought headphones (with very good reviews!) that are designed to be slept with.

What should I do in this situation? It feels impossible to resolve.

Edit: Thank you for your suggestions! I will work on asking the building manager to talk to him, getting a white noise machine, getting Mack's silicone plugs, and remodeling the room in which I have the issue.

Hi, for context I’m F17. I have been sick for almost a week and a half, non stop puking, headaches causing me to fall over, and abdominal pain that has made me cry. it’s so bad I have to leave work and school early often. my mom has watched me throw up these two weeks and wont take me to the doctor. she’s upset I keep missing school but her punishment to being mad at me is refusing to take me, that’s not even dramatic. she promised to take me one night and everything was fine and calm. next morning I’m throwing up on a empty stomach and can’t go to school. she gets livid and refuses to take me. she is a nurse so she thinks she knows everything. she says it’s the heat but the heat is causing me to barely be able to stand so I really need to see a professional. and no, I’m not pregnant, I won’t even touch on why that’s not possible but I can assure you it’s not possible. I’m not ever the type to miss school and work so it’s giving me anxiety. is there any way I can take myself? I don’t have my insurance card nor a lot of money as I haven’t been able to go to work but at this point I’m desperate.

edit for those concerned!! i drove myself and they checked me in immediately becaues I was vommiting, drum roll…. MY APPENDIX RUPTURED 🎉🎉🎉 thank you all for the advice I wouldn’t have the guts to go without you all :))) my mom is VERY apologetic now obviously I could have died. I’m still in the hospital, I have surgery prep tomorrow, wish me luck!! Thank you all 🩷🩷

I [26M] and my wife [27F] got married in 2022. She cheated the entire time we were dating and up until a year after we were married. I didn't know anything about this until early 2025. With sunken cost fallacy looming over my head I didn't know what to do. We bought a house in fall of 2025. Today, September 3rd, I just found out that she gave me herpes and genital warts. What do I do?

I need to update this post. we were both in the military, we both make good money, and now I'm working full time and going to college full time and its kid of contingent on my marriage.

Second edit:

I'm having a really hard time with this. I struggle with ptsd and she was the only thing that helped me cope. I don't really know how to approach this without her; I'm on a 2 month waiting list for a VA therapist.

Long story short. I’m 21F and my boyfriend is 22M. We have been dating for a year but in the beginning had some trust issues. I told him i wasn’t comfortable with him being friends with a female coworker/girl bestfriend who clearly had feelings towards him.
(She blocked me on social media randomly once he told her about me and would call him in the middle of our dates asking to talk knowing we were on a date)

He told me he would stop speaking to her and would keep things to work only but I went through his phone one day about a month after me telling him to stop. He was still texting her and saying that he would change her name to a Male name in his phone so I wouldn’t know and he wouldn’t have to stop talking to her. And how they could still talk and hang out in the parking lot at work on their lunches.

I flipped out because I felt like he broke my trust and we almost did break up but I did give him another chance.

It’s been a few months since this has happened and the thought of him being clever enough to change a woman’s name to a male name on his phone so i wouldn’t catch on still irks me. I get kind of weirded out when his guy friends text him. Because i’m like “is it really a guy though” Idk. Maybe i’m weird for feeling like this

I thought it’ll be a win/win for both the customers and the company. And for me of course, the company lured me with a great commission for every placed mediation.

However, I am at the end of my first week and I am devastated.

I HATE the colleagues, they’re all teasing and big mouthed seller personalities who talk down on women, foreigners, other people etc.

The usual conversation is about numbers, hinge, who they’ve slept with and here and there weird teasing like “guess if I have spit into it” when a guy who started with me brought me water.

I don’t click with anyone there. And the work itself is shady. They collect data and keep it from possible candidates. They don’t delete them if they tell them to, that’s literally an instruction.

Everyone is lying to the candidates and we learn how to manipulate them. People also talk about ID Spoofing (Using a fake number) and bouncer from India or somewhere who spam call the company of a targeted candidate to find out his number.

I know that some practices are common in omg but I am totally shocked and I don’t know what to do, if I should continue and see how it goes or if I should run away.

Edit: There’s also that guy who’s kinda racist and antisemitic that everyone seems to like. I can’t stand it.

Today is my last day at a big company where I worked for one month during my summer break.
My friend made banana bread (she worked i a diffrent department), so I decided to make caramel muffins because I didn’t want to bring nothing. They turned out a bit overbaked and small, but honestly, that’s not even my biggest problem.
The biggest problem is: should I even bring them to work?
I only really talked to about 3 people. The guy I worked with is one of them, (him i will gift a chocolate) and my boss is on vacation this week.
My friend gave her cake during the main break in the big break room, but I’ve never eaten there. I always ate in a small room with 3 other people, so it feels weird to suddenly walk in there with muffins for people I barely know.
I also bought some chocolate, so I could just leave it at my boss workspace.
Would you bring the muffins anyway, and if so, where and to whom? Or just bring the chocolate and leave it at that?

Edit: Hi thanks for your adivce!! I‘m taking them. Planing on asking the guy I work with where to place em to let people know to eat them.

Also a bit dumb - I was sure I wasn‘t gonna bring them and ate 3 hahaha now there are only 10 left. And the caramell is totally on the ground :(

So I’m (23F) staying in another country for six weeks for work and a few days ago I had sat down in the hostel lobby to read when this guy chatted me up (34M). After some banter he suggested we go out to a nearby pub for a drink. I don’t usually go for men but I suppose I’m bisexual and he wasn’t bad looking and had an interesting job that I wanted to hear more about and he seemed good fun so I agreed. But I immediately warned him that I had to get up for work at six the next day so I’d prefer to be home by half eleven.

He said sure and we went for a whisky. It’s a fun half hour before I realise he keeps ordering drinks for me and not touching any of his own. His comments are getting more suggestive and I wouldn’t mind that as much if it didn’t feel a bit like he’s deliberately trying to stay sober and get me drunk. Even after I declined the next drink five times because I felt I’d had enough and didn’t want a bad hangover at work, he just got up and got another drink for me. At one point he offered me cocaine and I thought surely he was joking so I laughed it off saying “it’s 2026, it’s probably half fentanyl and I don’t intend on being found dead in an alleyway in the morning” but apparently he wasn’t joking???

Then at around 11:15 he unscrewed a seedy looking bottle of coca cola which he said was vodka coke, poured it in my whisky tumbler (and a bit for himself which I didn’t see him touch), said “lol don’t worry I didn’t put any date rape drugs in there” and bid me drink. I said no thanks five times but by the sixth time I was a bit drunk and a bit scared and we were alone in the pub and I know it was stupid but I drank his goddamn bitter tasting ass vodka coke.

Then he said let’s go to a club and I said as politely as I could that I’d warned him I’d like to be home at 11:30 and just started walking back to the hostel. He followed me and said we should go up to his room and vape, I said sorry but I’m going to bed, he kept saying “come on” and trying to convince me and followed me as far as the lift, but the lift was full of people and he gave up.

I got a “?” Text message from him around midnight and two missed calls and was honestly scared he’d be waiting around at the hostel for me the next day or on my floor, but he just called me once the next day and I’m checking out today and spending the weekend elsewhere so I guess it’s blown over.

I just keep thinking, was this a perfectly normal chap hoping for a nice date and/or a quick fuck and I’m the arsehole for leading him on? But I don’t feel like I did lead him on since I wouldn’t have minded seeing him again if I hadn’t felt so creeped out at the end. I would’ve even gone to a club with him if I hadn’t had to work early, or another time maybe if he’d been less insistent. Or was this questionable behaviour and I was massively stupid for going somewhere alone with him? But he was a civil servant with a button up and plucky jokes, for gods sake what reason does he have to be a creep :(

I’m 25 years old almost 26 and I am ugly and everyone avoids me, and never talks to me. I’m dark skinned, I have black eyes, black frizzy hair, I’m 5’0, I’m overweight, I don’t have smooth skin I have acne and scars covering my body. I have a really wide flared nose.
I have done nothing with my life because I’m dumb & have low iq. I work and go home and lock my self away from the world because people are always rude and exclude me. I have no friends and I have never had a bf. I’m still a virgin. I don’t belong here. I’m just waiting for my end to come until then I’m trying to become happier on my own I just don’t know how to.

Hi,

Recently, my mom believes that I (19F) cannot be on my PC for more then 3 hours a day anymore due to the electric bill.

For some background, I've been forced into college semesters back to back for the past year, and due to my parents paying for college. If I chose to take a break, my mom said she'd revoke my college fund everyone saved up for me.

The only thing keeping me sane from the immense burnout straight from high school to college has been my games, my friends/boyfriend and my art commissions giving me some funds.

During my finals, on my last day, she told me that during my only 10 days free from school, I would be limited to 3 hours a day to “save money on the bills”.

My PC, as I calculated, would barely reach $6 a month if I played 6 hours a day (usually what i do on weekends), every single day, for 30 days straight. (I counted my keyboard, headset, microphone, mouse, background apps and all).

I screenshoted and showed her everything, and even then she doesn't seem convinced. I even offered to pay her up to $10 a month, and she said “with what money? get a job” and even then said my rules and to stop “being rude”.

Not only is gaming one of my only hobbies, but I also do art and get paid for it. Shes included that my art cuts into this time too, and my biggest problem is it takes at least 3 hours per commission, usually more. So now I have to pick in between doing a commission, or hanging out with a certain friend group, or my boyfriend each day. If I go over 3 hours, it cuts into my next day.

I've essentially destroyed my sleep schedule staying up super late, so I could play with my friends/boyfriend just a little longer, or finish art commission. (Like 4am-10am, sleep till 4 pm type stuff)

I find it super hard to believe at 19, I need to be "grown", "be responsible" and "act my age" but I can't even get the free will to chill in my room on my own PC I bought with my own money for a certain amount of time. Or the feeling to need to “sneak around” for something like this.

I'm begging to even just be allowed to play from between 4-10 pm. (Like I normally did) Not even late at night. Even just for the WEEKENDS.

I've asked my friends and my boyfriend for some help, and all they can tell me is that this is the stupidest thing ever and I'm too grown to be treated like this. But no one I know goes through this and can give me actual advice.

I'm genuinely good kid, all I do is go to school, come home, play some games/read/draw in my room, do my homework, pass all my classes, go to sleep, repeat. I spend a LOT of time with my family, usually by my own accord too.

If I drink (its legal here), I do it at home. I go outside, go hang out with my friends and come home. I have to pay for everything myself through my savings. I look for a job everyday, and I've had some before.

All I want is to be actually treated as an adult and have the free will that comes with that. Is there any way to convince a parent like this to give me some freedom, if I truly am an adult?

I've never written a post before but I truly don't know what to do. I have years of pent up resentment inside me because of my marriage. I know that sounds selfish and horrible but I don't know how else to describe what is going on. My husband of many years and I have always had a marriage where I'm supposed to shut up and do what's expected. There's honestly no respect from him towards me. If I speak up then I'm a horrible wife who is ungrateful. Lately the resentment has started to take a toll on me physically. I'm not happy and am always getting upset about things that I can truly look back on and say, you know that wasn't actually worth getting upset about. But the problem is my unhappiness is taking over. My husband doesn't allow me to speak freely with him about my feelings. He would always shut me down in the past and throw the material things in my face and he decided I wasn't allowed the luxury of having feelings. So now I'm resentful. He will never admit to anything he has done to me or for how lonely he's made me. I'm too scared to be open about how depressed I am. How can I stop being resentful? I need help. I need to accept my circumstances and stop swallowing my hurt until it makes me physically ill.

My neighbor regularly plays loud music late in the evening, sometimes past midnight. It isn’t every single night, but it happens often enough that it’s affecting my sleep.

I haven’t said anything yet because I don’t want to start a conflict or make the situation worse. I’m also not sure whether I should speak to them directly, leave a note, or contact the landlord if it continues.

How would you approach this without immediately turning it into a bigger problem?

(im posting this for my friend because he doesn’t use Reddit)

I (17M) have a best friend X (17M), and we're both in a state of higher education, and preparing for our exams. We met on the first day of school (which was over 6 months ago) and we have been best friends ever since. We talk to each other almost everyday, calling each other at night for hours on end, in the daytime during classes. We even used to study together. I have known I was ace for a long time (or whatever | consider to be ace, cos I don't know myself) and he is also ace.

We both are extroverts, and we love people, like making other people happy, spreading joy and everything is a part of who we are, and also why we bond so well together. We like people for people and their personalities, just that we don't like the idea of sexual intimacy. Both of us fall in love quite easily, and it doesn't help that we are both in love with each other. I do love him, I truly do. He is the greatest friend, and the best person I could ever ask for. We've even slept together (in a non-sexual way), and truly, I love him, and he loves me so much.

It's just that, we can't afford to be gay. Our parents won't allow.

Unfortunately, him and I live in a society that still views homosexuality and the like as unnatural, and we both know that. We also know that since we fall in love very very easily, we should just get girlfriends to be a bit more "appropriate" for lack of a better word.

Even in the duration that we've been friends, he's had a crush on 1 or 2 girls and I've had a crush on 3. We talk to each other about them, its just that, it's not reciprocated or anything so we only have each other, and the more tightly we hold each other, the more we just, don't wanna let go. I really really really want to love someone, and he does too, we just want people to be a little bit happier by our existence, and we try.

Idk why I'm really writing this bcs my friend (other friend) kinda js said it's supposed to be a reddit post so here i am writing a long essay with no clear end goal or advice to be sought, other than

1. Clarity on our sexuality
2. wtf are we
3. next steps, like do we pursue girls, or do we just face the consequences and love each other

I (18M) caught my gf (19) saving another dudes snaps in chat, to find this i did go through her phone whilst she was asleep. i understand this is wrong in my part as i should trust my partner.

keep in mind we have only been together 5 months, but ive known her for 2+ years now (ex talking stage). i stopped talking to her last halloween as she went to a party and had guys snapping me off her phone sticking up the middle finger to me.

we ended up talking again and since march we have been in a relationship, she has always had male work friends (which im comfortable with), whilst having their numbers/instagrams too (im also comfortable with this). but something in me told me to check it, and since she was asleep i thought it was the best time to do so.

i went through her recently searched people in snapchat and seen a bloke, i clicked on the chat and he had removed her. i scrolled through the chat and found not 1 but upto 3 or 4 topless photos of this man saved in their chats, with a couple of her saved too (nothing topless or explicit - just her in the mirror) he had sent his address too.

again i know it was wrong to go through her phone but these chats were from june (on and around my bday) so she was clearly planning to keep this a secret. i left that night without a word, i drove home and as i got home she woke up and messaged me asking where i was. i told her what i seen, she begged me to come back, saying she’s so sorry and she promises to change. she swears to have never met up with him or done anything with him and in her words “it was never like that”.

i did take her back and it’s been a couple days since, i took her back because we were just so good before it all happened, we used to argue a lot prior (especially around my bday) and i never really felt like we got our “honeymoon phase” but before i found out it really felt like we were getting there.

i just thought id get on to ask you guys, what do you think?