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Are there any OPC folks here who know what the OPC position is on divorce where the wife divorced the husband for domestic abuse, and no commitment to providing financial for her and the kids?

Not for the faint of heart. But since I’m anticipating someone will want to qualify specifically what level of domestic abuse so here are some of the details: threats of violence to wife, violence to items at home, actual hitting one year old child to punish wife, waking up wife at 1am, not letting wife sleep, holding wife hostage by restricting movement and access to vehicle, restricting access to friends and even church leaders, gaslighting, cursing at wife, etc.

If this woman shows up at an OPC church will they direct her to repent of the divorce?

Very much appreciate honest and thoughtful replies.

Many of you will know William B.Eerdmans as a major US Christian publisher with Reformed roots, which brought writers like Louis Berkhof and Gresham Machen to wider attention. They now publish a much wider range of authors, and these days you can't even be sure that an Eerdmans author is an evangelical. But I still see the Eerdmans name as a guarantee of quality (their academic books are peer reviewed) and they publish several commentary series that are a godsend to conservative evangelical theologians and pastors (e.g. Pillar, NICOT/NICNT).

Yesterday the founding family sold up to SPCK, which is a name that will be less well known to many North Americans. The Society for Promoting Christian Knowledge was the first voluntary society of the Church of England, which means it's an ancestor of all missionary societies in the English-speaking world. These days, 99% of its activity is publishing books. It mostly serves the same markets in the UK that Eerdmans does in North America, from heavyweight academic tomes, down to picture books for children. But the SPCK also publishes Bibles, so perhaps Eerdmans will enter that market. SPCK publishes books across the theological range of the Church of England, but if you read its annual reports, it's clear that it's the theologically liberal authors get the most attention and promotion.

Can SPCK be trusted with Eerdmans? Well, there's a good test case. In 2015, SPCK bought Inter-Varsity Press (IVP). There are publishers with similar names in many countries, but IVP UK had been a clearly conservative evangelical publisher, which was still primarily focused on its original market of evangelical university students, graduates, and theologians. SPCK promised to respect that and to retain a separate board and trustees for IVP.

Since the takeover, I'd say the promise has been kept in the short term, praise God! IVP authors still have to sign a conservative evangelical doctrinal basis, and it's clear from the management's books, blogs and tweets that they're evangelicals. The books that they're promoting and the new authors they're signing are still usually names I know from conservative evangelical circles. And this has been costly. IVP has lost about £2m (≈ US$2m) since the takeover, which SPCK has funded from its historic endowments and which is unlikely to be repaid. I give thanks to God that they've kept their promise so far and this is encouraging for Eerdmans readers.

There are some clouds on the horizons. The IVP trustees now include an Anglican bishop who supports same-sex marriage, which would have been unthinkable before the merger. And it's not just IVP that's losing money; SPCK is also losing money on its core (mainly liberal) publishing operations. That's been funded by its moderate endowment, but that endowment has performed poorly in recent years, and I do wonder whether the Eerdmans acquisition is a sign of health or desperation, and how on earth they are going to finance it. So I suspect in the long run the IVP and Eerdmans names will drift and/or disappear. But hopefully they will remain good and faithful servants for my lifetime, at any rate.

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What I know of arminianism so far ( I could be wrong and mix it with semi-plagianism), is that I need to work for my salvation or that I can lose my salvation after being born again. In that case how can one be truly happy and rest in the works of Jesus Christ?
I have friends who do not care about what the Apocalypse says about heaven or the bible verses about happiness or peace (Mathew 5:12,Romans 5:1) because why should I care if I am in the danger of missing them ? If my salvation could be lost in the future I need to constantly keep myself in this race of keeping this salvation, weather it is the fear of being to sinful to be forgiven (Hebrews 6:4) or even commit apostasy. If salvation is predestined already why are there so many warnings ? But then again why would God show us the beauty of heaven and the comfort we will receive (Apocalypse 21:4) if nobody can be sure he will end up there ?

Oh and the last thing we can all agree on is that nobody can have absolute sanctification here on earth, although some people claimed it and failed miserably.

I suppose it's up to interpretation as to whether this is a question or a rant: Why is it so hard to find a good church?

I (and my wife and kids) recently moved to a new area (Northwest Indiana). In our former area we attended an EFCA congregation, and my wife and I both have a credo-baptist evangelical background.

The first church we tried was okay. The sermon was good and they seem to have a lot of programming. Not too big, not too small. But like so many other churches, "worship" was a concert. Lights dimmed, 10-person praise team on stage, everyone applauded after every song. They did one hymn but modified it to be performative rather than participatory. The slides all changed late, so if you didn't know the song you don't fully participate.

Our new neighbors and the seller's realtor both recommended their churches. We tried neither. One seemed more theologically decent than the other, but both had laser light shows, large church "campuses," and other typical megachurch trappings.

The second church we tried we ended up going to for a couple weeks. Tiny chapel, congregational singing from a hymnal, it was a breath of fresh air. But the preaching wasn't solid; you could clearly see the fundamentalist background, and the pastor explicitly denied Calvinism. What's more, a large percentage of the church seems to be the pastor's immediate family. Not necessarily a problem, but a huge potential for problems.

The third church we tried was Dutch reformed. Significantly more liturgical than we're used to, but a beautiful service. Preaching was good, and more than that, I actually had theological conversations with people after the service. I had conversations about historic confessions with three different people! Everyone was also very kind. But my wife and I have firm credo-baptist convictions, and I think it would become a sticking point. (And yes, I have looked at the various church finder websites for 1689 congregations; there are none in our area.)

We found another baptist church that seemed promising, but it turned out to be KJVO fundamentalist (with its various cultural implications), so we didn't attend a service.

I asked my former pastor about another congregation down the road, and he said he had worked with some of the pastors there and believed it to be a solid church. I listened to one of their sermons online which immediately started with a 6 bullet point list of what you need to be a successful church. Number 2 was "dynamic worship." Not biblical, spirit-led, or God-honoring... "Dynamic." The pastor said he wasn't going to explain the list since he already did so in a previous sermon. So I pulled that up and was greeted with 11 minutes of statistics and shaming people for their retirement decisions before reading a word of scripture.

We were invited to a relative's church. It seems to be dying. There were virtually no families with children. They just made the decision to discontinue children's church, not for any principled reason but because they simply don't have enough kids to warrant continuing it. I believe it is an elder-led congregation, and all of the elders (excepting the pastor) seem to have been in the position for a very long time.

So what do we do? What is the least-disagreeable compromise here? The one thing we won't compromise on is the pure Gospel message. Do we go to a church with decent preaching that undermines congregational participation in worship (which seems to be more and more common)? Do we swallow our convictions and go crawling to a paedo-baptist congregation? We have a few more churches to check out, but it's been incredibly discouraging.

Anyway, if you've gotten this far, thank you for commiserating with me. Please pray for us.

I am burned out spiritually in this season and have found spiritual respite, oddly, in well-written books. I feel that reading good literature has moved me to think about my faith in ways vastly different than solely reading Scripture.

I am currently reading The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky on the recommendation of a friend who said it was the most theologically enlightening book he's read in a long time. My next book is The Count of Monte Cristo by Dumas.

Thanks!

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Hello Everyone!

I am curious about people's experiences with Erskine Theological Seminary? I can't find much talk about it online beyond some really old threads. Do you recommend it? Generally, I err on a Good Faith Subscription of the Westminster, but I want to receive an education from a distinctly Reformed University. Erskine is a part of the ARP and is probably more strict on subscription to the Standards. Would that be an issue? Below, I will give if you would like to speak to them, beyond general recommendations for Erskine.

Context:

I work full-time and go to Covenant Theological Seminary via distance part-time. I am also currently under the care of a presbytery in the PCA. I am interested in possibly transferring to Erskine Theological Seminary. My primary motivation comes down to cost and time commitments in terms of travel.

Right now I go to CTS and pay $650/hr + $310/semester for other fees. I participate in the church-matching scholarship. I pay a third, my church pays a third, and CTS pays for a third. Plus, I have to travel to St Louis to attend CTS 6 times throughout my time there. Conservatively, each visit would take a week of PTO (I have 3 weeks a year) plus $1000 for traveling and lodging. Essentially, this means I would have no time away from work that isn't school for 2-3 years of my life on top of the cost of going to St. Louis.

Erskine, by comparison, is $550/hr + $100/semester for other fees. Since I am in the PCA, regardless of what my church contributes, there is a 45% scholarship towards my tuition. There is no residential requirement, as CTS has, so I would not need to spend money traveling back and forth but could attend some in-person intensives on weekends, as I have family around there and only live 4ish hours away. Likewise, I would not have to use up all of my PTO to travel for week-long intensives.

In total, I could pay my way through Seminary without my church's support and still come out ahead financially. Not to mention the MDiv at Erskine is a little shorter, so I would graduate a semester earlier.

With that being said:

I know cost isn't everything. I do really enjoy my classes at Covenant, but struggling with the cost and travel commitments on top of the stringent demands Seminary already has on my daily schedule. What other things should I be weighing in my decision?

Hi there, my wife and I are PCA and attend a vibrant and well capitalized church. We have attended for more than 5 years and now have our daughter in Sunday school.

My whole adult life I have been charitable with The Church: supporting missionaries, supporting campus outreach, supporting local charities, and giving to The Church in foreign countries (particularly ones in countries that I feel like are my enemies).

For the first time, I’ve started to feel ashamed that I do not give to the church I attend every Sunday. This is shame because I realized that the deacons and elders probably recognize we attend regularly but do not give and have not given despite using church services and Sunday school and even counseling once.

One day I will stand before The Lord, knowing full well that I could have given more and trusted in him more… but on this instance I wonder if I’m motivated wrong.

Any thoughts?

She is 7 weeks old tomorrow.

Our older 3 are Malachi, Naomi, and Sarai. We both love the name Eleni - however it is not a biblical name, itbis Greek and means "bright" or "shining one". It does really fit with the sibling names and I think of that name every time I look at her!

Is it weird or dishonoring in some way to deviate from biblical names when we have named the other 3 that way? That's the only hang up for us.

A weird question possibly: could a person be considered a hypocrite if said person would never place membership with a megachurch, but is still perfectly happy to listen to the podcast teachings of people such as MacArthur, Begg, and DeYoung?

What is your opinion on using Eastern or Western iconography without venerating them? I grew up as an Eastern Orthodox and love the icons and find them as useful tools for prayer, although I do find any specific reverence or even prayer directed towards as them as violating the Second Commandment. Basically I disagree with Nicea II notion that reverence of image directs devotion to what depicted on it.

As far as I considered, I do see a very strong case to avoid any depiction of the Father, but I find the icons of Jesus to be acceptable since, as well as the symbolic icons of holy spirit.

The icons of the saints also seem okay to me, as they depict the living Church that transcends death. Although again, no prayers should be directed towards saints or their images.

As I am currently getting “reformed” as an Eastern Christian, I don’t want to throw out my heritage out of window but reconsider it to follow the commands of our Lord as best as I can. So I would like some feedback and potential corrections. Any opinion is welcome. God bless you all.

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This time, I'm looking for reccomendations, resources and books on classical theism. There are a few main points I'd like to know in particular

1. A concise definition of Classical Theism and an exploration of this
2. The explicit Biblical case for classical theism. (I'm particularly thinking of instances where God is described as changing his mind).
3. The historic roots of it, in Judaism and early Christianity. How did it arrise?
4. How did it become a far more obscure idea, what are the chief challenges to it.

I'd appreciate any help I can get.

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https://joethorn.substack.com/p/doom-despair-and-deliverance

Reminds me that the way I am and my "head space" are not foreign in the Christian walk.

I’m at a newly-planted non-denominational church. We had a men’s ministry event over the weekend and one of the guys I met threw me for a bit of a loop. Meeting the guy, you’d immediately think, oh, this guy’s gay. He’s got that stereotypical way of speaking and just generally gives off the vibe. Then you find out he’s married to a woman and has five kids. (And then you think, Really?!)
Now, I know that having a wife and kids doesn’t rule out the possibility that he is gay, but let’s just assume he really isn’t. Knowing that effeminacy is sinful (1 Cor 6:9, 1 Tim 1:10), how would/should such a person be handled in the Reformed world, either from the church’s standpoint or the individual’s? I don’t get the sense that there’s much in the form of guidance at my church, let alone governance. I have some thoughts (loving bluntness?), but curious if there are concrete approaches or opinions.

Hi everyone, so early next year I'm going to be studying theology as part of a graduate program.

For those who have done any formal/informal theological study using a structured system do you have any advice/resources on how to take notes on theological works as most of my note taking has been quite informal until present and I think having a more structured system would be beneficial.

Thanks all :)

Luther - 10 commandments, creeds, Lord’s Prayer 3 times per day plus catechisms.

Calvin - scripture reading, prayer, morning and evening catechisms.

Baxter - scripture reading, prayer, singing catechisms.

I was not raised doing this when I was a child.
I now have a wife and 4 little kids aged 2 - 8 and we have been doing it. Seems like nobody talks about it much and some of my southern Baptist friends who do family devotions their kids hate it. My family doesn’t hate it but sometimes ordinary behavior issues pop up. I’m curious if this practice is common among reformed families and if it’s on the rise. I’d like to hear thoughts on what has worked well and hear how other people do it. The way I do it is based on my church’s weekly bulletin. We read a couple short passages do a catechism, Lord’s Prayer, confession of sin, sing the doxology and I do a benediction. Whole thing takes 10-15 mins. It doesn’t feel as “deep” or “spiritual” as sometimes I feel like it should, but I think that’s a good thing. It’s not a lecture or anything like that. We just do it once per day in the mornings.

I’d love to hear what you all do and open the floor to discussion on the topic of family worship in general if others have related things you would like to discuss

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