Please be kind to each other and don't hesitate to ask any questions.

I know this is probably the wrong sub, but I don’t know where to post and my mom would probably be able to answer this if I could ask her. Maybe you all could point me in the right direction if you can’t answer my question.

I have this belt/sash for a dress and it gets all crumpled and bunched up no matter what I do (ironing, etc). Is there something I can do to this to make it stay wide? I think I tried starch at one point but if I recall that didn’t work either. Could I attach it to another firmer fabric?

I am finishing school in a couple of months and I will pursuing a new career field! I feel like I will be entering my Business Professional Woman Era! How do I start discovering my new aesthetic? I've done some research on Pinterest but I would like to come across more professional.

Personally I do not look my age and people often tell me so. Is there a way to appear more mature? I struggle with understanding how I'm being perceived and need advice! Thanks in advance mother geese ♡

Im SUPER bad at remembering names, and due to a situation, i spent alot of my childhood years at home, and pretty isolated. So i never really had to "practise" remembering people's names. My first job was at a really small place where only like 15 people worked, so it took me a week or two but I was able to remember all their names. But I got a new job at a place where the probably around 80 something people who work there😭😭😭 plus the 20 managers and supervisors. I've had a couple shifts there and I genuinely remember two people's names. That's it. And that's the one supervisor who had to sign off on all the paperwork (so i saw their name written several times) and the head manager. Other than that... i have no idea who I'm talking to😭 I legit feel super bad, but i can't help it!!!!!! They tell me their name, and it genuinely falls from my brain, out of my ear, and disappears.

What do I do!?!??!😭😭😭

My niece is in her first week of college and she’s struggling hard - with the change as well as becoming an “adult.” I want to send her a care package but am struggling with some things to include. She’s exceedingly intelligent and is pretty picky when it comes to food. I’d love to get her some creative funny stuff that isn’t reminding her of college.

Any suggestions from people who have been in a similar situation?

I didn’t know I’d make it out of foster care and to 19 I hope you’re proud of me mum I’ve tried my best

As title, I'm so stressed about school right now. I have to take four APs this year, and I feel confident/semi-decent about all of them except the math AP; I'm looking at the coursework for it right now and it looks completely foreign, even though i've already taken through algebra 2 honors. I have to get at least a 4 on all these APs. I also have to enter this super competitive essay writing/research competition, and do at least three different community service work/extracurriculars.

I logically know that I'll probably be fine, but I'm just so anxious and nervous, about failing, or if I'll have time for myself or have to study in every free moment of my time. I could really use some kind words, please.

Hi moms!

I’m in college and I’ve always struggled with routines around cleaning and staying tidy. I have adhd so it’s hard for me to prioritize what tasks to do in what order.

could i have some advice and maybe examples of how you manage your cleaning habits?

i live in a duplex apartment with two college age men so assume everything needs to be done.😅

thank you :)

It's taken just over 2 weeks, but I got the work done. I changed the radiator, all 3 motor mounts, gas lines and installed the window wash reservoir. The husband had to help a little because I don't have the man strength to get some of the bolts loosened. I got so frustrated so many times and I was ready to walk away but I kept at it! I cannot wait to get the fender one and take her out for a drive!

I procrastinated on studying it for awhile before the test (oh no!)— I tried to pull my strings together 3 days before it and I surprisingly passed with an 85 (Luckily it was mostly review)!

For a long time during my earlier high school years, I was pushed by my Dad to start learning how to drive at 16 but I wasn’t in the right mental state. I wasn’t friends with the right people and I was in distress for so long that I thought I wasn’t capable at anything, including driving (Don’t worry, I’m not friends with them anymore). I’m also neurodivergent, so my anxiety around it- worrying I will hurt somebody was high :(.

But here I am, 18 y/o and very determined learning how to drive and planning soon to do my drivers exam next week. Wish me luck, Moms!

Mom, are you proud of me? I don’t expect much but thank you in advance! Mom, I’m sorry if I’m ranting a lot, I have a habit of doing so :’).

Edit: Thank you to all the Moms/people for replying. The comments made me tear up and what I needed right now. 💕

I just had an inspection at my apartment. I had about a week's notice, and my place was a mess. Proper sty. And despite my struggles with cleaning, I was determined not to let them get the best of me. And they didn't! I didn't do it all alone, a friend graciously and invaluably helped, but asking for their help felt Herculean in the first place. At the end of it, the night before the inspection, the place was cleaner as it's been in years, with all visible floor pretty much spotless, surfaces free of piles of stuff, having taken out several garbage bags of rubbish and old stuff I didn't need or want, and so much dust removed that I had trouble breathing. I was in physical pain by the end of this labour, and when the inspection came around, my tenancy manager... took some photos and left. I know it's not their job to do anything else, but I was crushed. Not a single word, good or bad, about the state of my apartment. Not even an acknowledgment that I'd cleaned at all. Took them barely thirty seconds.

I'm still proud of myself and I've no doubt I'll pass inspection but it was such a blow. I know I did a good job, but can you tell me anyway? Are you proud of me?

It took a while to get the motivation to do this after battling with a lot of both physical and mental health issues that originally made me fail out of college. i’m hoping that someone can be as excited and as happy as i am rather than just saying “well it’s what’s expected of you you don’t deserve any praise” but also need advice on how to keep the ball rolling and not fall back into bad habits/how to make new ones that could set me up for success <3

Hello, the program I am in is having a prom next month. No, it's not in high school, and I am 23. The school I am in is having one. I am going to go! I didnt get to go to the one in high school. I wanted to go as a girl in a dress and my new girly identity. And I am already legally my identity, and this is my second chance to go. I am going to go, and now my parents can't stop me.

Last November I (f) decided just in time for my 37th Birthday to finally got serious about my health because I was not heading a good direction and was hitting at 180 lbs. I am now running 2 - 4 miles 4 days a week as well as weight lifting and back in my dojo training. I cook a lot more at home and it is finally showing in my body with ripping muscle starting to be visible and stamina I never had before. I am so proud of me and I am down 30 lbs since that day.

hi mom, i hope you’re doing well. i wanted to share with you that i was able to get out of my room and go out to watch a movie all by myself today. i feel incredibly happy and accomplished even though it’s terribly an insignificant thing when you think about it, especially at my big age of 22.

i made plans yesterday to go to the cinema alone, booked a ticket and got mentally ready for the event. i was so close to cancelling the plans because it was rainy and my mind had almost convinced me that it was a waste of time and money. but i’m glad i finally decided to go because it was one of the best decisions ever. i guess it’s not as scary as it seems.

i had never been to the cinema by myself so it felt good. i dressed up, put makeup on, got myself a drink and took the bus there. after the movie, i decided to walk back home cause it wasn’t raining so heavily, just drizzling. the rain on my skin felt so good, i felt so alive. while walking, i noticed my favorite tree had its leaves completely turned orange while the surrounding trees were still green. autumn hasn’t yet caught up with them it seems.

from now on, i will hold a more
optimistic view on doing simple things alone, and making my life more exciting and adventurous. i’m proud of myself :)

ps. the movie i watched was ‘End of Oak Street’ it was good movie, i enjoyed it!

edit: thanks moms, i loved reading all your replies, you’re the best🌹

edit2: i’m so overwhelmed by all the support, reassurance and love😭❤️ thanks again. i didn’t think the post would gain so much attention haha

I (F22) am currently finishing up my last semester of college and I am graduating this December. My boyfriend (M23) moved to our state to live with us and work while I finished school. We did long distance for a good chunk of our college careers and I was able to visit him in his home state a handful of times.

For context, the state I currently live in is extremely expensive. I do not see myself living here in the future and I barely have any friends or family left here. I still live in my hometown with my parents, and I have always commuted to my classes. I desperately want to begin my adulthood, because I feel that I am far too emotionally dependent on them.

I love my boyfriend’s family and my views/likes/hobbies generally align better with theirs. I love my parents with all of my heart and I consider them to be two of my best friends, but I feel like I am suffocating living here with my boyfriend. We want to begin our own lives, and I can see a future living in his home state.

When I told them I would be doing this, they did not react well. They told me they would not support this decision, and believe that I would return if I moved. To sum it up, they made me feel incredibly guilty and really bad about wanting to see what else is out there. I have never lived anywhere else but my home state. I am eager to explore this new journey of my life but they are making this decision extremely hard. I don’t know how I am going to get through this emotionally. I feel like I am abandoning them, but at the same time, I am excited to move to a new place. It is all very overwhelming, and I wish they would support my decision. I am heartbroken. I am simply looking for some kind words or even advice on how to get through this.

Hey mom, hope you're doing well. I've been applying to more and more jobs but it's saddening to not hear back. I got rejected from a position I really wanted last week. I think I bounced back well and I've gotten a lot better at managing my job anxiety and not freezing up, but it still got me a bit down.

I'm simultaneously proud of myself for being in a better mental state than I was a few weeks ago and being more proactive and brave (not just job hunting, but also socially, working out more, etc), but at the same time job hunting is still a stressful and discouraging process. However, I'm determined to see this through and I would really appreciate some encouragement if you can :)

I'm 18 so it's a little late but I finally got mine. I got 2 questions wrong and struggled a bit on the vision screening but everything worked out fine. I was hesitant but I also opted in for Organ Donation. Did I do good?

Hi Moms! I bought a lovely cast iron iron in an antique shop. But it’s quite grubby…

I’ve never had one of these before and want to use it for sewing, but it needs a quick clean so it doesn’t mark my fabric.

Any advice how I can do this please?