What profession wouldn’t you date?

[u/ihatebadvibes]

[u/candab14]

An underrated one is Chef. You'll have this vision in your head of them cooking you gourmet meals every night. That's not remotely how it goes. First of all, they almost always work at night and on weekends since that's when people go to restaurants. At home, they tend to make the most basic crap. The job is super stressful so they're on edge a lot, and there's a ton of drug usage and alcoholism among chefs. You want someone who can cook but doesn't do it for a living.

[u/Hilly_Crystal → u/candab14]

Was a chef in fine dining for almost a decade. Wife thought the same thing when we started dating. Cooked her one meal in that timeframe and got divorced due to the stress of the job. Now I work an office job and I’m a much happier person. 🤣

[u/Unionthug2049 → u/candab14]

The saying “the cobbler’s kid goes without shoes” applies here. In my experience people who cook for a living are most likely to want a break from doing so when they’re not at work, much the same as I (an electrician) don’t like to do electrical work at home. I’d much rather do carpentry, plumbing, laundry, literally anything that I don’t do at work all day.

[u/lookingpastsky → u/Unionthug2049]

I used to work at a pizza place making pizzas all day, and the last thing I wanted to do when I got home was cook.

Now I work for an internet service provider and my family/extended family knows this, so suddenly I’m their de facto IT guy whenever they have problems. I’d rather sit bare assed on a hedgehog than deal with all their questions.

[u/snowhumbug3 → u/candab14]

I was married to a Chef I will never get involved with another one. I could deal with the hours. It was the attitude and alcohol. The better they are the more the stress to preform. We had several friends that were also chef’s at various levels and I saw it in just about all of them.

[u/beeedeee → u/candab14]

And people in the restaurant industry are notoriously unfaithful. There's a lot of fucking going on.

[u/PortWine → u/beeedeee]

Working at a restaurant and being the only person who didnt hook up with another waitress/host is how I learned I was ugly.

[u/Informal-Emu3251 → u/PortWine]

If it helps I came to the same conclusion working at a hospital.

[u/gizmostuff → u/beeedeee]

They are usually alcoholics or drug addicts or both. I'm not saying that this is the main reason they cheat but it certainly doesn't help with their decision making.

[u/joannabanana868 → u/candab14]

They also sleep with half the kitchen. From experience dating a chef for years 🫠🫠

[u/Electronic_Bug_8764 → u/candab14]

I KNEW we would make the list

[u/Omnievul → u/candab14]

A good friend of mine is a cook. He used to work at a restaurant of a very renowned chef some years back. One night he was hanging out with the chef at the kitchen after work, drinking beers and whatnot, and the chef gave him some friendly advice: "If you commit to this career and become a successful chef, you will earn a lot of money and you will spend all of it on alcohol, drugs and prostitutes".

I am not a cook, I barely cook at home, but that really resonated with me lol. It has to be one of the most nerve-wracking jobs out there.

[u/dammnbrotha]

Lawyer.

And I’m a lawyer 🤣

[u/CatTaxAuditor → u/dammnbrotha]

My dad was a lawyer, 2 uncles are lawyers, my brother is a lawyer, a ton of his in-laws are lawyers, and I do tech support for lawyers. Not in a million years would I date a lawyer.

[u/gastricprix → u/CatTaxAuditor]

Well yeah, does anyone else in your town practice law besides your family?

[u/myfishaintdead → u/gastricprix]

🤣🤣

[u/blondie956 → u/dammnbrotha]

My son says the same thing 🤣

[u/stufff → u/dammnbrotha]

I'm a lawyer and always refused to date lawyers too. Recently got into a relationship with another lawyer who also had a "no dating other lawyers" policy. We're even on opposite ends of the same practice area.

It's going amazingly well so far. I still think as a general rule it's a good practice though.

[u/priyatequila → u/dammnbrotha]

my best friend is a lawyer and his hard dating rule is no lawyers. he says no matter the field, to get through law school and do well in the field, the person's gotta be cut throat. 99% are going to be like that or somehow not good to be in a relationship with.

i used him as my example of "well not every one..." lol, and he said it's just easier to say no lawyers😅

[u/deusasclepian → u/priyatequila]

Heavily depends on the field. For many litigation attorneys that's probably true. I work in patent law, and from my experience it's largely a bunch of chill nerds.

[u/The-Kingsman → u/priyatequila]

Lawyer here. That's true for some schools, but definitely not mine. Everyone was very chill and collaborative and very much not cutthroat overall (obviously there were a few folks like that, but they were the exception).

[u/oso_polar → u/dammnbrotha]

I think you mean litigators. Plenty of lawyers have non-adversarial jobs.

[u/Magmasoar → u/oso_polar]

Objection! Hear-say

[u/wadealexanderxt]

Anyone deep into an MLM. It turns every friendship, family gathering, and casual conversation into a sales pitch.

[u/LadyEmeraldDeVere → u/wadealexanderxt]

I briefly dated a guy who tried to recruit me into Amway. Then when he met my dad he tried to sell him his crap products. Very upsetting. We ended things shortly after that.

[u/Helpful-Concept-1464 → u/wadealexanderxt]

It took my (unrequited) forever-crush getting into a MLM scam to break that crush 😅

[u/Rozelle97]

I’m a paleontologist. Field work takes me away for months at a time, the museum pay is awful, we’ve had multiple cross country moves… my spouse is a trooper! But the majority of my colleagues are divorced or on their way there.

[u/stiff_mitten → u/Rozelle97]

Paelo spouse here: can confirm. It’s not a relationship for the faint of heart. Sooo many divorces and/or solo/single parenting while the other is away.

People ask why I don’t join my partner during field work. I say if I wanted to dig holes I’d get a job in construction - at least I’d get paid more.

[u/nogotime120 → u/Rozelle97]

What does the paleontologist pipeline look like? Did you have to get multiple degrees in Geology, Biology, etc...?

[u/ge0lady → u/nogotime120]

Geologist here. Paleontologists often have a geology degree but can take extra specialty and biology classes unless there a specific degree program for them. Most of the specialty training in the geosciences comes at the graduate school level though. It's rare to find specialty bachelor's programs in anything except hydrology.

[u/Trialanderror2018 → u/Rozelle97]

Ross?

[u/peppersteak_headshot → u/Trialanderror2018]

three divorces!

[u/grand_soul → u/peppersteak_headshot]

PIVOT!!!!

[u/TheVentiLebowski → u/grand_soul]

unagi.

[u/less_unique_username → u/Rozelle97]

but dating is your entire profession

[u/raljamcar → u/Rozelle97]

So you uh... you dig up dinosaurs?

Hrawhaw hrawhaw. 

I think thats how you spell Jeff goldblums special laugh

[u/honeykitty789 → u/Rozelle97]

Was going to say Archaeologist, was one, many things go down on digs, mixing drinking, being away from home, and people you intellectually connect with is not a good recipe for relationship success. I saw many distinguished scholars making lots of mistakes.

[u/PinkToxicWst]

Head chef.

[u/christinastephensae → u/PinkToxicWst]

People imagine amazing home-cooked meals every night, but in reality you never see them on weekends or holidays, and their actual at-home diet is eating cereal or takeout over the sink at 1 AM.

[u/Hot_Ocelot_167 → u/christinastephensae]

My uncle was a chef, and his favorite dinner at home was Kraft Mac & Cheese.

[u/mattycbro → u/christinastephensae]

While drunk and on cocaine lol

[u/Deaftrav → u/PinkToxicWst]

Serious anger issues

[u/ancientspacewitch → u/Deaftrav]

Either serious anger issues, serious addiction issues, or both.

Met some sound chefs in my many years but all of them loved to get on the bags as soon as (or during) the shift was done.

[u/NDeceptikonn → u/Deaftrav]

WHERES THE LAMB SAAAAUCE?!

[u/PageantryBridge]

Personal trainer, club promoter, professional athlete

[u/priscillamillerij → u/PageantryBridge]

The holy trinity of people whose jobs involve getting hit on constantly.

[u/PageantryBridge → u/priscillamillerij]

Yup. I've stupidly gotten wrapped up in two of three. Seen the havoc of the third though

[u/ilovemymom_tbh → u/PageantryBridge]

Daejon Love doesn’t count.

[u/Bender7676 → u/PageantryBridge]

But if you find someone who is all three, definitely date them

[u/noracordelia]

Wouldn’t date any of the 4 P’s (physicians, paramedics, police officers and pfirefighters)

Edit: Forgot pmilitary, so make that 5 P’s!

[u/Paol_erlandsen → u/noracordelia]

Can we add politicians to the p heads

[u/sleppyangels → u/Paol_erlandsen]

honestly politicians might actually be worse than most of the p heads honestly. at least with the other ones you know what you're getting upfront.

[u/Spare-Half796 → u/noracordelia]

Phirst responders

[u/Thoughtulism → u/Spare-Half796]

I feel like people who fall for thirst traps should be called "thirst responders"

[u/Illustrious_Store115 → u/noracordelia]

Pornstar still on the table then

[u/Cu_Chulainn__ → u/Illustrious_Store115]

And the counter, and the bed, and the desk. Everywhere and anywhere

[u/lostunderthemoon99 → u/noracordelia]

And Pmilitary

[u/Spare-Half796 → u/lostunderthemoon99]

Armed phorces

[u/CurrentCriticism238 → u/noracordelia]

Surprised Pilots isn’t on here. As a female pilot… I feel like I can say this lol.

[u/knight2e5 → u/CurrentCriticism238]

This! My dad was a pilot. Never around, surrounded by other crew that is similarly lonely and away from their loved ones.

He sucked at being a dad and a husband and from what I could tell so did his coworkers.

[u/Agitated-Rest1421 → u/noracordelia]

As a paramedic— fair.  God love my husband. It’s a struggle some days. 

[u/HxH101kite → u/Agitated-Rest1421]

Idk my wife is FF/Paramedic. She has work stress for sure. But the rotating schedule makes childcare and stuff so easy. Maybe her department is a good one. But they don't seem to have much drama or issues

[u/Agreeable-Emu886 → u/HxH101kite]

I’m a firefighter but on a 42 hour work week. If you’re on a 56 hour week it can be rough. 48/96 etc… where a lot of people are routinely getting held and shit.

That being said, the divorce rates are also higher

[u/misterguyyy → u/noracordelia]

I’m seeing way more Ps in the comments. Cursed letter I guess

- Promoter

• Personal trainer
  
• Pro athlete
  
• paleontologist
  
• Pornstar
  
• Pilot
  
• Psychologist/Psychiatrist

[u/Ok_Eye_3733 → u/misterguyyy]

Not the Paleontologist 😆😆💀

[u/Medallodabest → u/Ok_Eye_3733]

Poor Ross 😔

[u/ridingtimesarrow → u/noracordelia]

And preachers!

[u/honkai-yuri-fan → u/noracordelia]

ok but phirefighters would be the better joke here i‘d argue

[u/icyhot000 → u/noracordelia]

Physicians live a hard life, few careers demand so much. Anyone considering being a physicians spouse/partner needs to be well aware of they will also be having to sacrifice a lot and that it will be difficult

[u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

I don’t see engineers in here. Nice.

[u/Swoly_Deadlift → u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

People don’t have horror stories about dating engineers because engineers don’t date.

[u/batmessiah → u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

Or scientists. Nice.

[u/LA_Ramz → u/batmessiah]

You know, i'm something of a scientist myself.

[u/Top-Gap-4578 → u/LA_Ramz]

Norman, is that you?

[u/thenoteskeeper_16 → u/Top-Gap-4578]

YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED? 😡🤬

[u/litterboxhero → u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

Bold of you to assume engineers can get a date.

[u/Bob9010 → u/litterboxhero]

I'm an engineer and I haven't been on a date in decades.

Would you like to see my trains?

[u/Full-Decision-9029 → u/Bob9010]

knew a bunch of serious hard core engineers from a big serious hard core school who made a big serious Thing while in schooland did well from it. But while all that was happening, the school appeared to go out of their way to get them girlfriends. All sorts of social events, all sorts of ways of dangling a bunch of engineers in front of people - "sure they are dorks now with some sort of fucking robot thing, but give them a few years and they'll be rich"

They needed all the help the school could offer.

(Also a few schools I am familiar with will put the arts or theatre department beside the engineering department for similar reasons)

[u/Dry_Badger949 → u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

my husband is an engineer- he’s annoying tho 🤣

[u/C-chaos19 → u/Dry_Badger949]

My dad is an engineer, sweetest person ever, good at everything and will go out of his way to help anyone… but he’s also so annoying hahaha.

[u/Easy_Turnover7013 → u/Idivkemqoxurceke]

I don’t date engineers as an engineer girl…

[u/MattieShoes → u/Easy_Turnover7013]

Back in school, the female engineering majors used to say "the odds are good, but the goods are odd"

[u/ibeerianhamhock → u/Easy_Turnover7013]

Interesting, I'm an engineer and my partner is a scientist and it works out really well, we have a ton of common geeky interest and generally share a similar outlook on the world.

[u/6j66 → u/Easy_Turnover7013]

Damn I’m an engineer girl dating an engineer boy. I find it’s fun because we get to understand each others stress and talk about nerdy shit together

[u/innawasadiver → u/6j66]

I’m a woman engineer as well and after dating three engineers… I steer clear of them and go for more creative types. We did have a lot of common geeky interests and can talk intellectually with them, so when it’s fun it’s so fun! However (this part is hard to explain bc it’s so subtle) but no matter how intelligent and high-achieving I am, their ego takes a hit for some reason, esp if I’m earning more or out ranking them. They tendency to peacock their intelligence or push their way over mine was just too common; it’s not a nice feeling when that push back is coming from someone who you believe cares about you :/

Also a common trait in engineering is to be more logic driven, sometimes to the point that the emotional side during hard convos gets neglected so the EQ sometimes isn’t there.

I’m glad your experience is great otherwise but just showing the side of an engineer/engineer pair that could happen

[u/ibeerianhamhock → u/innawasadiver]

Unpopular opinion but low EQ engineers aren't very successful. The scale of things we build now are large and collaborative and if you can't understand people, build trust, and communicate effectively, you're probably not going to be a good engineer.

[u/jonnywarpspeed]

Tennis players. Love means nothing to them

[u/Imightaswell → u/jonnywarpspeed]

Agreed, it's all games and sets

[u/Carbon-Base → u/jonnywarpspeed]

They constantly get into Open relationships too.

[u/ldstaylor → u/jonnywarpspeed]

It took me way too long to get that!

[u/No_Mountain_992]

As a lawyer, anyone in insurance.

[u/-QueenAnnesRevenge- → u/No_Mountain_992]

I was gonna say lawyers. Tried it once and dating someone whose job is to argue that they are correct or right all the time is not for me.

[u/Illustrious_Cod_5843 → u/-QueenAnnesRevenge-]

I have prepared a ten page memorandum that demonstrates conclusively I am right and you are wrong.  

[u/Juragaming → u/Illustrious_Cod_5843]

my ex once literally showed up with a powerpoint to prove a tiny argument she won’t let go of

[u/Illustrious_Cod_5843 → u/Juragaming]

When I was in law school, I actually tried to get my girlfriend to reconcile a prior inconsistent statement.  And I used those exact words.  

I am a LOT more relaxed now.  I don't try to constantly prove I am right.  I just know I am right and I don't need a romantic partner's validation.  

[u/NobodyDelicious7197 → u/Illustrious_Cod_5843]

It's not easy being a parent to a lawyer either. The endless arguing to sway me to their conclusions started very young and continues to this day. It's exhausting

[u/dcade_42 → u/-QueenAnnesRevenge-]

Eh. Good lawyers don't do that. They know the strengths of everyone's position and try to work out a solution with the relative strengths in mind.

Shitty lawyers do what you're describing. It's just a waste of everyone's time and energy (and money, which is another facet of this equation I'm ignoring intentionally.)

[u/ValeLemnear → u/dcade_42]

Yeah, idk what kind of people the users dates but the bread and butter of lawyers is mediation and efficiency. 

The boneheaded approach is only typical for shitty lawyers as you said, trial lawyers, SAs, family/divorce law and such.

[u/No-ThatsTheMoneyTit → u/No_Mountain_992]

As someone in insurance, lawyers.

[u/No_Mountain_992 → u/No-ThatsTheMoneyTit]

Touché.

[u/seahorse137 → u/No_Mountain_992]

Yall should date

[u/depressingconclusion → u/No_Mountain_992]

I smell a rom com…….

[u/sasspancakes_07 → u/depressingconclusion]

Enemies to lovers 😭

[u/HighFiveKoala → u/sasspancakes_07]

Coming soon to Netflix

[u/willow-kitty → u/HighFiveKoala]

Just for one season, which is all tension-building, though. It's then immediately cancelled.

[u/zoosha2curtaincall → u/No-ThatsTheMoneyTit]

Could you detail every negative interaction you’ve ever had with an attorney, in 6-minute increments, justifying why you feel this way? Otherwise I’m afraid we’ll have to reject this claim of yours as insufficiently detailed.

[u/VacationSoft2042 → u/No-ThatsTheMoneyTit]

But the angry sex would be hot.

[u/the37thrandomer → u/No_Mountain_992]

Does that include actuaries? Actuaries have the lowest divorce rate by career.

[u/Sharp_Barnacle_9123]

flight attendants or pilots. never home, always tired, always meeting new people in different and exotic places

[u/Frost-Folk → u/Sharp_Barnacle_9123]

It's merchant sailors you should be worried about.

• a merchant sailor

[u/DigNitty → u/Frost-Folk]

“Do you have a condom?

-Only sailors use condoms Baby

“It’s the 90’s now Austin, that’s not true anymore.”

-Well they should, the filthy buggers.

[u/housewrecker77 → u/DigNitty]

Timely joke as the US just dumped an aircraft carrier of sailors who set a record for longest time at sea in.....drumroll......Pattaya Thailand.

[u/Robbythedee → u/Frost-Folk]

You mean sailor in general

[u/Frost-Folk → u/Robbythedee]

I mostly say merchant sailor to distinguish from recreational boaters lol

[u/Aggressive_Moose3189 → u/Sharp_Barnacle_9123]

Dated a flight attendant, got cheated on multiple times before I found out.

Some dudes wife sent me a msg on fb to tell me my gf had been screwing her husband after she found out.

100% agree

[u/-malcolm-tucker → u/Aggressive_Moose3189]

One of my mates is a flight attendant. She loves her job and stays single, mainly because she enjoys having sex with as many different people as possible, as often as possible and in as many different places as possible.

[u/SackOfCats → u/Sharp_Barnacle_9123]

My wife likes her alone time at home when I'm on a trip.

Having said that, I get 18 days off per month most months

[u/capncait]

Cops. No cops. Ever.

[u/Wookiesook → u/capncait]

High rates of domestic violence with cops.

[u/DuskGuardNSFW → u/Wookiesook]

Not to mention they're often legally untouchable

[u/pinaki902]

I dated a doctor for a while and it was kind of difficult. Among the really long hours, a lot of plans can get cancelled or delayed, and the trauma she endured both in her patients (pediatric inpatient) and stories from COVID, it was difficult.

[u/ConcretePolarBear → u/pinaki902]

My brother was a trauma nurse for years and covid finally did him in. He quit after being reprimanded for restraining a patient who was trying to attack a doctor. 

[u/SparkyDogPants → u/pinaki902]

That’s why I like my long commute. I have enough time to decompose and not trauma dump on my husband.

[u/pushincito → u/SparkyDogPants]

Decompose?!  😅😂

[u/Alarmed_Abrocoma204]

Doctor. I have a friend who's married to a doctor and he gets maybe an hour or 2 a day with her tops since she's so busy. He's just alone in the house all day with their animals

[u/enderkitties → u/Alarmed_Abrocoma204]

I was in a relationship like this and absolutely loved it. I loved the dynamic 10x more compared to my relationships with people with a regular schedule. I really enjoy relationships where I am given significant amounts of alone time. There is not a soul in the world I want in my face everyday.

[u/Wrong-Landscape-4722 → u/Alarmed_Abrocoma204]

Tbh that would be a dream for me. Like, you’re bugging me. Don’t you have a life to save??? Lmaoooo

[u/sillysnailfriend → u/Wrong-Landscape-4722]

Lmao! See for me it would make me sad, I love hanging out with my wife 

[u/benhereford]

Payday loans sales, telemarketers, tons of finance "jobs," anyone that chooses to willingly rip people off as a profession

[u/0grehaul]

Any of them. My wife would be pissed.

[u/Chizels]

Corrections officer. Police officer. Fool me once.

[u/Shprintze613 → u/Chizels]

Did it once. Never again. And not cause he was a bad guy. The job brings out the worst in literally everyone, but also attracts a certain type.

[u/Chizels → u/Shprintze613]

I didn't know until I was in it. My brother found out and said, "obviously he is like this, he is a corrections officer." 💡for me.

[u/LadyEmeraldDeVere → u/Shprintze613]

My dad was a cop, my mom worked in corrections. Yeah. I need therapy. 

[u/silentbuttmedley → u/Chizels]

I thought police would be top comment. It is for me.

[u/zacharymasonki → u/Chizels]

When someone spends 12 hours a day assuming everyone is lying to them, it is almost impossible for them not to bring that paranoia home to the dinner table.

[u/FeralMediocrity → u/zacharymasonki]

My brother-in-law has been a probation officer for 25 years.

It was really fun for my two nieces growing up with a dad who assumed that every stranger might be a pedophile or child abuser.

[u/JudithSlayHolofernes → u/Chizels]

Can’t believe i had to scroll so far to see “cop.”

[u/No_Frame_9452]

Actors (I say this as a theatre major/former actor)

[u/No_Frame_9452 → u/No_Frame_9452]

For those asking why, Trooper's comment nailed it. I love artists and I'm still a musician so I'm guilty of some artist stereotypes myself. But there's a lack of balance in the lives of actors who haven't figured out that they need to be a human being first and actor second.

They can also be very flirtatious (the number of times I've thought a cast mate genuinely liked me only to find I was one of many irons in the fire), the love-bombing I experienced when dating an actor, the competitiveness that can impact the relationship. It's not like I think they're bad people. It can be a toxic industry and I'm just not interested in being around it.

The reasons I wouldn't date an actor are also reasons I don't want to be one anymore.

[u/Punky921 → u/No_Frame_9452]

"When you do it in real life, honey, it's called 'lying!'" - my friend in theatre

[u/CheetoLove → u/Punky921]

"I had an ex break up with me in a crowded restaurant. I asked if she did it to avoid me causing a scene. She said yes, so I said, "Then why did you BRING AN AUDIENCE?!" - (Roughly his joke) Gianmarco Soresi

[u/Kerberos42 → u/No_Frame_9452]

My gf is an actress and stunt woman, TikToker, athlete, sometimes model. 😬 It’s taken some time for me to get used to the male attention she gets from people in the industry, but she’s really good about making sure im included when we are out and makes it clear I’m with her. The first time she took me to a red carpet event was interesting as she was with her cast and crew most of the time in front of the the cameras while I was in the back of the room, but behind the camera I was the center of her attention.

[u/CaptainFartHole → u/No_Frame_9452]

I work in entertainment and yeah, this is my answer too. They're so fucking dramatic and exhausting. Fun to hang out with sure but dating? Pass. 

[u/Hopefulkitty → u/No_Frame_9452]

I work on the tech side of theater, and while I expected to end up with a theater person, I am really glad I didn't. Life would be impossibly hard if both of us had theater school debt and theater school income. I'm married to someone who enjoys attending shows, but doesn't need to be a part of the creative process.

[u/honeykitty789 → u/No_Frame_9452]

They are also attractive, and constantly meeting other attractive people, and fans throwing themselves at them. And being away from home a long time.

[u/Ok-Drama137]

Any profession where 'part of the job' is spending hours every night doing more work.

Work is work. Home is home.

[u/imuglybutyourefat → u/Ok-Drama137]

Fuck accounting

[u/Typical_Today8712 → u/Ok-Drama137]

For that reason I would say being partnered with a teacher sucks.

[u/Comprehensive_While3]

Tobogganist

[u/Wherethefigawi00 → u/Comprehensive_While3]

This is the correct answer. It’s all downhill from here

[u/TheLazy_Guitarist → u/Wherethefigawi00]

Sounds like a bumpy ride

[u/Chee-shep]

A surgeon. Their schedules can be very difficult, and the stress easily can rub off onto their partners. The work they do is incredible, but takes up a lot of their lives, especially if they are on call.

In one episode of Forensic Files and ex-wife of a heart surgeon said, “he always worried his next referral would be his last referral.” It was that kind of stress and strain of his job that led to the divorce (along with control and anger issues).

[u/Celestialghosty]

Police, the job attracts a certain type and police will protect their own before they protect you, also they have such high rates of domestic abuse so it's a total shit show I would never go near

[u/donileong]

Influencer.

[u/jrdnvrsls → u/donileong]

Are we validating that as a profession?

[u/dv282828 → u/jrdnvrsls]

I think ASU just introduced a degree around being an influencer

[u/Noobphobia → u/dv282828]

Well its asu so...

[u/Account77_ → u/jrdnvrsls]

If someone makes a living off of it (which many do) then yeah its a professional realistically.

[u/MichaelHunt009]

Reddit mod.

[u/Mediocre-Light-6277]

Only dating advice my father ever gave me. Don’t date cops 

[u/joka2696]

Police officer.

[u/KeyLimePie-555]

Political lobbist.

[u/Ambitious-Life-4406 → u/KeyLimePie-555]

Rather broad. My bestie is a lobbyist for a children’s hospital …

[u/Unionthug2049]

Anyone who works in film and tv. 12+ hour workdays, lots of travel for long periods of time if they work in narrative, unpredictable schedules, and the gig economy lifestyle can all be really hard on a relationship. Plus so many people in my field worked their whole lives to achieve their one goal of making it in “the industry” and that hyperfocus has led them to frame their whole personality around their job, so even when they’re off the clock all they talk about is work.

Bless my patient wife.

[u/sadlyanon]

for anyone reading this there something called the ROAD to medicine. which are the doctors with the best lifestyle to pay ratio. Radiology. Ophthalmology. Anesthesiologist. dermatology.
also they call PM&R: plenty money and relaxation
and ENT: Early nights and tennis.

I’m an ophthalmology resident and boss has 3 kids and doesn’t really take call and is always out by 4. she take multiples trips per year and delays her start time when her kids have first days back at school. she is active is her kids school so she knows which days to take off for the plays and recitals. Maybe men aren’t as good at coordinating, but boss is literally my inspiration. Marry a doctor who is family oriented.

[u/BulgarYeet]

I’ve had to stop myself from seeing lawyers. No more attornussy for me.

[u/AMCHAmby]

psychiatrist 😭 i already overthink every little thing i say, i do NOT need to wonder if my boyfriend is quietly diagnosing me over breakfast

[u/codingphp → u/AMCHAmby]

It takes a lot more effort than you may think to psychoanalyze someone. The last thing psychiatrists want to do is work when they’re at home.

[u/tattlerat → u/AMCHAmby]

I’m dating a psychology trained therapist. Most people in those professions want to turn that part of their brains off at home. And if they can’t they’re usually pretty capable of honest discussions regarding boundaries and the like. They are trained to help others establish boundaries and communicate, they’re pretty good at it. I wouldn’t consider it a deal breaker gig if you’re secure in yourself and willing to communicate.

[u/zarathustra327 → u/tattlerat]

As a therapist who is married to another therapist, this is accurate. Neither of us tries to "diagnose" the other or engage in much "therapyspeak" for the most part (and we're quick to shut it down if it does happen). And like you said, we're trained in handling emotions and communication in ways that make it easier for us to resolve conflict than the average couple.

Honestly, I think this trope of not wanting to date a therapist/psychiatrist because "they'll constantly try to analyze/diagnose me" says more about that person's insecurities and outdated tropes regarding the profession than it does about the reality.

[u/xxmunroe → u/zarathustra327]

this tracks. as a mh worker and therapist all i want to do is not be that person in my interpersonal relationships outside of work. i don’t want my personal relationships to feel like work; that would be unhealthy af.

[u/chaoticinternetnerd → u/zarathustra327]

My boyfriend and I are therapists too! I love how easy our communication goes, but God no, we never therapy speak to each other.

[u/Punky921 → u/AMCHAmby]

Married to a therapist - trust me, she is not doing that. The last thing she wants to do, when she's off hours, is that.

[u/I_am_Nobody_Special → u/AMCHAmby]

Husband and I are both psychologists. 🤣

We are normal people, I swear! We don't analyze each other or diagnose each other. Or our kids.

[u/Chemical_Nervous → u/AMCHAmby]

'Hey babe... I've noticed you've been... hoarding Labubu dolls in the bedroom. This is becoming unhealthy. How does a Labubu make you feel?'

[u/Imaginary-Let6277]

The oldest profession

[u/a1ex1819 → u/Imaginary-Let6277]

Guys, i think he meant prostitution

[u/Jamie_logan → u/Imaginary-Let6277]

Midwife?

[u/Lixgrimm → u/Jamie_logan]

Thank you for this, I hate when people cite sex work as the oldest profession😭 not to diss sex workers themselves (lots of nuance we don’t have time for here), but this specific misconception often disregards women’s labor throughout history

[u/Agitated-Rest1421 → u/Jamie_logan]

Yup. So tired of the prostitution propaganda. Midwifery will always be the oldest profession 

[u/MightBeAGoodIdea]

Not like they'd be interested in me either but...

Actors and/or musicians.

They make a career of being likable and have people throwing themselves at them constantly that even if I trusted them it'd be exhausting to want to go out to eat somewhere and have a gaggle of fans fawning over them.

And if there's even a sliver of doubt there it's over. The better the actor the better they can act... Kinda obvious statement but like "no honey I'd never cheat on you" can be an Oscar worthy act while they are totally cheating on you.

[u/CottaBird → u/MightBeAGoodIdea]

As a musician, it sounds like you mean aspiring, famous, or touring musicians. I doubt you’d need to worry about the nerd who plays at the local jazz club every weekend or in a regular cover band at a beach-themed boomer bar.

But watch out if he’s anything like Duke Silver. That man is irresistible.

[u/Many_Definition_334]

A teacher (ps: I am a teacher myself!)

Luckily, I am married 😆

[u/MoonAndStarsTarot → u/Many_Definition_334]

Ironically, as a teacher, I only ever wanted to marry another teacher because of the shared holidays and that they would understand what I go through. It’s very hard for non-teachers to relate to the stress and occasional trauma we go through.

My husband and I are both high school teachers. I couldn’t be with an elementary school teacher though 😂 I’m kidding. Mostly.

[u/Vic_Hedges]

Anyone in the Military.

That seems like a shitty life to me.

[u/katikaboom → u/Vic_Hedges]

I grew up with both parents in the military. They had their faults, but I loved most aspects. Great schools, lots of friends that understood the life and weird rules, got to see a ton of interesting places and meet interesting people, and got to see a huge amount of European history. Also got to travel to different countries for away games, so that was neat. 

The bummer at the time was friends moving away after a few years, but now I meet up them when I travel because we ended up all over the world. 

[u/I_BleedPurple]

Politician

[u/poop_monster35]

Law enforcement. The statistics are not in my favor.

[u/GarnishedWages]

Sales because honestly anything that’s good enough will sell itself

Sales tactics are annoying af

[u/Choss_King → u/GarnishedWages]

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[u/Lazy-Point7779]

Academic. Never again

[u/AnEvilMuffin → u/Lazy-Point7779]

Academic here. I'm not sure if I should argue or just admit that you're probably right

[u/Top_Excuse8313 → u/AnEvilMuffin]

They are forming their opinion based on observations so this lends to a decent hypothesis that we should test. Course we need to write like fifteen different proposals before we get funding...and after expiriment design and removing confounding factors which will take some long days at the office, of course field work is most likely required, possibility of being gone for months at a time. Then there is us writing the paper, debating on who gets what authorship, the submission and the eventual reviewer #2 and the long waits for...you know what I'm beginning to agree with Lazy-Point already...

[u/OddgitII → u/Lazy-Point7779]

Academics are either the most chill, laid back people I've ever met, or the most uptight, unfun, neurotic, anxiety driven weirdos.  There seems to be no in-between.

[u/maddallena]

Cop

[u/downtimeredditor]

Anyone who has a "Former D1 Athlete" in their bio

[u/Bubbling_Battle_Ooze]

Any kind of law enforcement (police, military, corrections). Any kind of politician (including lobbyists).

If they’re legally untouchable they’re ethically unfuckable.

[u/Apprehensive_Suit373]

Flight attendants.