Hey everyone I didn’t get a bid. I’m at a big SEC school. I rushed 10+ houses of all social tiers and sizes and got walked out of all. Some place I thought was going to go well said the brothers really loved me and had great things to say about me but due to the numbers, they can’t give more bids. I don’t really know how to feel. I’ve wanted to be part of a fraternity for a really long time but now it’s hard to not feel like a reject. I don’t really know what to do and I was told even by IFC that I will get a bid. I want to rush next spring but I don’t know if that’s a good idea just because I don’t want a repeat. I’m a freshman right now. Sorry if something similar has been posted before. Just looking for advice.

I’m attending a university and want to join a frat, but I’m only staying at this university for 1 semester due to it being pricey. If I join a frat at this university after I leave can I never join a frat again?

Second question, say the university the frat I’m in has a chapter at the school I’m transferring to, am I automatically in the chapter there or do I have to rush again and have to get a bid?

If your in a frat, and transfer to a different school and go to there frat, do they usually let you in and are the people at both the schools you went to accepting of it?

I just rushed a frat and our pc met for the first time the other day. We have a group chat going and we’re trying to plan out things for us to do. Theres about 40 of us and we were thinking of trying to host a pledge class party with possibly another sorority pc. Does this sound like a good idea? Or should all party stuff be saved for the upperclassmen to plan. We also don’t know where we should host it, if it should be at an apartment or we should try to use our frat house.

She joined Phi Mu, her son is 20 & in an unspecified frat. Turn outs she slept with all his friends whom were all in his frat. Wtf is this kinda of thinking. I actually feel so bad for bro. If you’re defending this, imagine if it was your mom. Shit has my frat so disgusting we’re actually considering to go above nationals & give him a bid. We also cancelled any upcoming socials with Phi Mu.

I rushed a fraternity this semester as a soph and made it pretty deep into the process, including the later invite-only events, but didn’t end up getting a bid.

I got along well with a lot of the brothers and had at least one older member tell me afterward that he had been backing me. There was one person involved in recruitment who I never really clicked with, though. Our conversations always felt dry even when I tried to keep them going, so I’m wondering if he just wasn’t sold on me.

A few of my friends ended up joining this semester, along with some other guys I got along with during rush. If I rerush next semester, they’ll be actual members by then and I’ll already know a decent amount of the house.

Would it be worth rerushing, or is getting that far and still not getting a bid usually a sign to move on?
I do like a lot of the guys, but I’m also not trying to force it if the fit just isn’t there.

Tl;dr: rush has been ass

What's up everyone, honestly this post probably makes me a squid but f it.

I'm a Freshman at UF, wanted to rush a fraternity. There's a ton of chapters here so I was sure I'd find my place.

Did all the pre-rush stuff, went to several places a couple times. Felt great, many brothers asked for insta (unprompted), really had some great convos.

First night of rush, start off at probably the top house. Get walked out after 15 min inside, not surprised. Liked a lot of the brothers I met at prerush but convos this time were going nowhere. Very competitive process so cool dudes were getting walked left and right to keep the line moving. Was not nearly the first, wouldn't be the last.

I then go to the neighboring house. Smaller, middle of the pack (not that I care about tiers i liked them more than the top house). Was at prerush several times, talked to pres, philanthropy chair, invited to a brother's apt two times to post game. Am their for about an hour, only talk to a few dudes that were the only ones I hadn't talked too. Conversation stalls, soon I get walked out again because "brothers didn't feel enough of a connection".

Go to another house, really clicked with a lot of the brothers and a lot of the dudes that got bidded on the first day and accepted. Became my top choice, I GENUINELY felt at home there. Got invited back the next day, had more good convos for about an hour. Got walked and told their "bid process is unanimous and we dont think you are a good fit."

Still on the 2nd of 4 days, I went to my second choice. I had been to two prerush events their where I talked to a ton of brothers. Same pattern. Their for an hour or so, had really good convos with some guys, felt pretty at home there too. Got taken to the back, honestly though I may get a bid. Going downstairs and seeing the exit sign I knew I was getting walked again. Claimed they genuinely like me but "we've given out a lot of bids already" Last hour or so I spent at another house I liked a little during pre rush. Had some good convos and didn't get walked so this may be my last chance.

I went into this with an open mind. I feel dejected though, I'm not one to take these things personally but it's been a bit hard to hold it together because of the hit to my self esteem. I know I have 2 days but the next two are invite only and I only have maybe 2 more houses I haven't been too that I know well enough to invite me. I met a lot of brothers at both and liked them but don't really feel at home at them like I did at a couple other places.

Yes I tried rushing the absolute bottom houses, but it is not a good fit for me at all. Dudes are nice but weird in a bad way (you know what I mean). Not saying I'm above being in them or anything it's just trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

I'm a little nerdy (econ-math double major) and chubby, I'm not gonna lie about it, but I go to the gym, have hobbies, am ambitious, tall, referee semi-pro soccer as my job, take care of myself. Yes I showered, put on a good shirt and pants. Yes I got a good haircut. Yes I asked about the chapter itself, when I was asked why I should be bidded I gave genuine answers about wanting to be involved in the chapter and that I'd give back. Yes I made an effort to go up to and talk to brothers, find interesting things about them or something we had in common.

Yes I handled every walkout well even if it stung. I thanked them for saving me time, told them I understand it's part of the process, shook their hand, and wished them good luck for rush.

I put my best foot forward.

Sorry for the long ass post. Clown me if you want but I needed to vent and get some advice. Should I re-rush in the spring if no one wants me in the end, or is something about me just contrary to the values of fraternities?

To preface, I’m Muslim — tattoos are forbidden, & I’m very much involved in a religious community that would (correctly) judge me. However I have self harm scars from when I was a retarded teenager so we’re kinda past the body modification part of the religious thing. But more pressing to the matter, my letters look kinda cool and God knows im a jackass so I’m sure it’ll be fine within 40 years.

What’s a good place to put it that’s relatively inconspicuous but also not like super obvious that im tryna hide it. It cant be in a stupid place tho like my balls or armpit. What if I did the inside of my lip

(large northeast school) what is this rush event typically like? what is the setup and what games are played? I’d imagine the usuals but what are the main ones? thanks

do they get tgtr in a room, put up ur headshot, and ask how many people liked their vibe? discuss the pros/cons? how do they choose

I know there's a lot of trolling here but I'm hoping I can get some actual advice. I wasn't that interested in going Greek until I actually got to campus, but coming here without knowing anyone made me reconsider. I think it'd be a good way to meet cool people.

That's why I'm curious, does anyone have houses they'd recommend rushing this fall? I'd probably steer clear of the top 3, just because most of the guys I've talked to who are rushing them come off as pretty douchey. Rush is next week and I haven't been in contact with any houses which I assume hurts for any of the really big names here. I know everyone gets caught up in bouse and touse but I assume at a school like FSU even lower tier homes have good people, connections, parties, and attractive woman.

A couple things about me. I'm a pretty easy dude to talk to and can carry a conversation fine. I'm 5'9", 170, a little on the chubby side but pretty athletic overall. I'd say I'm mildly attractive, not the best looking guy in the room but not ugly either. I'm curious how much that factors into things during rush (I don't see many guys with a little extra anywhere).

I'm not looking to be some frat bro stereotype or an alcoholic. I'm just looking for some solid friends and connections. Would love any honest thoughts on rushing in general, and which houses might be worth checking out. Feel free to ask whatever below, or flame me, it's all cool.

Since y'all like shitposting asking if random things from water beds to which New Balances are frat, here's the place to do it.

We've turned down the frequency of these posts from weekly to monthly. This way it doesn't clutter up the sub.

I’m a high school Senior starting college apps. And I know I wanna rush. How’s hazing at schools like VT and UMD, or even smaller schools like Bucknell or Temple? Is it worse than a lax locker room?

Got the go ahead from my risk manager and president to rent out a mechanical bull for our darty but is it worth it? Worried about the liabilities but it would be sick

Got out of the army with a green to gold scholarship. Did 2 years active duty enlisted, now I’m in rotc. Would it be worth it to rush a frat? Would it be possible to fit a frat into the rotc life?

Need some advice. Last night a brother at our party just yelled at me for like 5 minutes straight and then swung and hit me across the face just because I was standing next to our dj at the dj stand. This isn’t even the first time he’s put his hands on me for making up bullshit problems just because he gets angry when he’s drunk. All I did was stand next to the dj and he was on my ass because he built the stand so he can decide where I stand at a party??? My frat doesn’t even care about it and it’s not the first time he’s told me he wants to kill me over some joke of a problem so I’m wondering what you guys think I should do. All of this was in front of rushes and girls btw

Like how certain is that you will make the right friends in a month at the beginning of school

Hello all I’m not gonna lie I’m a a little salty (i’m using a burner account cus my main is known) so due to my school messing up my student aid I had to sit A SEMESTER out not even a full year but at the first meeting 2 weeks ago when I ask why the meeting wasn’t started ( i thought with me we had quorum) they told me that they already filed me as an alumni without me knowing or giving a reason so I didn’t count i even check on our membership database and it was changed. am I wrong for feeling kinda salty about it I’m the only blk dude in my southern chapter so theirs already been talks about what is and isn’t ok but I have never felt so much distance from my chapter as when they told me that and don’t even know what to do fr do I just put my letters down. I checked and they didn’t need yo do this since i was only gonna be gone the semester.

PS i made it extremely clear that i still wanted to be active as a collegiate brother so idk why they decided to do that

Edit: I didn’t leave my school entirely dual enrolled at the local community college cus my main collage has a program there so for all instance and purposes I have all the other student privileges but no classes to pay I did it this way because I wanted to stay collegiate I check the school system and I still have student status

Hi all. I recently transferred schools and found out that another school in my area has a chapter. Would it be possible for me to get involved again? If so, what would be the best way to reach out?

Do I join sigep at usc? they recently started a chapter here again last year so the house has like 30 or 40 members. I think there were like 6 or 7 people that rushed sigep during the fall this year. I heard sigep was p chill tho and less time commitment and no pledging process but idk if I should join or just rush during spring